139 How to Be in the World with Bernadette Seacrest


Life is messy, isn’t it? On the Well Woman Show I interview women about their messy, fabulous lives. These women are making a profound impact in the world. A Well Woman is not someone who is perfectly fit, healthy and successful (though we are all those things at different times). Instead, a Well Woman is someone who is showing up, “learning how to be in the world” and intentional about living her best life, WHATEVER that is for her.

This week on the show I talk to Bernadette Seacrest about how she shows up in the world, about quitting and restarting creative projects, the awakening that led to her getting sober and how she found her “thing” at age 35. We also hear a clip from her latest album, Lust & Madness.

What you’ll learn in this episode:
The awakening that led Bernadette to getting sober
Which book changed Bernadette’s life
What one thing contributes to being a successful person

Links mentioned on show:
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
Well Woman Show with Julia Cameron:  www.wellwomanlife.com/018show
Lust & Madness album, released 2016

Book she’s reading:
Of Human Bondage https://www.amazon.com/Human-Bondage-Bantam-Classics/dp/055321392X

“I ask for grace to be able to handle whatever comes up” -Bernadette Seacrest


Full bio:

Bernadette’s creative path reads like the back story to a mid-century Hollywood heroine: Ballerina, Fashionista, Hell Kitten, Sultry Chanteuse.

She spent her childhood in California and New York where she studied classical dance with the renowned Los Angeles Ballet, San Francisco Ballet and American Ballet Theatre until an injury drove her love of drag and pageantry Northeast and underground. Coming of age amidst the gutter glam and jewel toned ink of New York and L.A.’s early 80s street punk scene the ballerina scraped by as a sometimes fetish model, makeup artist and clothing designer for the iconic punk rock apparel company Nana.

In 1993 Bernadette declared Albuquerque, NM home and in 2001 made her musical debut with one of the hottest roots rockabilly bands in the Southwest, the Long Goners. Working closely with Pat Bova, the band’s brilliant singer-songwriter, she belted out rebellious anthems in the style of Janis Martin and Wanda Jackson. Bernadette, with the Long Goners, shared the stage with Hank Williams III, Jonathan Richman, Wayne “The Train” Hancock, The Bastard Sons of Johnny Cash, Rockin’ Lloydd Tripp, Al Foul and the Shakes, Tom Walbank and Spo-dee-odee.

2003 found the burgeoning chanteuse ready to wrap her voice around the more complex musical terrain of jazz. She collaborated with acclaimed bassist and composer David Parlato for a year before forming a new band – Bernadette Seacrest and her Yes Men- with bass player/songwriter extraordinaire Michael Grimes. The combo’s first album “No More Music by the Suckers” was released in 2004 and features desire drenched jazz standards as well as original songs by Grimes and former bandmate Pat Bova. Swing City Magazine wrote that the album was “… not an attempt for a one time rockabilly kitten to break into the modern day jazz scene but an attempt to break the mold, an endeavor she unconsciously accomplishes.” Their second album, “Live in Santa Fe” was released in 2005 and magically captures the smoke filled acoustics of a sold out live performance. Bernadette toured extensively with her Yes Men, playing to packed audiences across the U.S. and France. She and the boys have been featured on NPR and shared the stage with: Samarabalouf, Mat Firehair & the Imperators of Kool, El Senor Igor, Devil Doll and The Glenn Koster Trio.

In 2006 Bernadette followed her heart to Atlanta where she put together a new project – Bernadette Seacrest and her Provocateurs – with guitarist/songwriter par excellence, Charles Williams and bad-ass bassist Kris Dale. A unique group, with a lean sparseness distinguishing and defining their sound as one guitar, one bass, and a voice. Together they sow a cross-pollination of that which some call jazz, others may call blues, and still others may perceive as swing noire. In late 2009 the trio released their debut album “The Filthy South Sessions” to critical acclaim. A collection of songs penned by Williams that range from the All Mighty’s drinking habits to an epic late night lament inside a diner at the end of the world. The tunes infuse Ms. Seacrest’s signature dark vintage sound with a Deep South hue. With new record in hand Bernadette and her boys continued to tour extensively in France…..

In between her European tours, Bernadette can often be found holding court within the infamous Atlanta nightspot – Sister Louisa’s Church of the Living Room and Ping Pong Emporium – which seems to have emerged as a pre-ordained vehicle for the unique experience that only Bernadette can deliver. Former trio disbanded, Bernadette’s allure continues to foster her own constellation of talented friends as Atlanta’s local heavy hitters appear regularly in the audience and on stage. Francine Reed steps up for a duet, Big Mike Geier drops in to play the snare, and of course Kris Dale and R.L. Martin are always nearby – guitar and bass at the ready. Her willing subjects recoil, laugh and blush as she relentlessly exorcises the demons of doubt, inhibition and lowered expectations carried with us from the daily grind. Fans smile knowingly while newcomers are buffeted through the sets, each new effort seeming to top the last. When it’s all over they carry their experiences home in a beguiled state of wonder. Something has been restored and reclaimed. It’s authentic…. it’s intimate….. and we are blessedly reminded of how music can make us feel when we’re lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time.

138: How to Say No so You Can Say Yes with Samantha Michelle


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Hailed by Flaunt Magazine as one half of “London’s most exciting DJ duo,” international DJ/actress/filmmaker, Samantha Michelle makes her way back to the US with her hugely popular and spirited DJ sets that can only be described as distinctly vintage, upbeat and classical, as she fuses familiar tunes with rare records moving swiftly between the genres of rhythm and blues, ska, reggae, soul, and funk.

Samantha Michelle’s career as a DJ kicked off in 2012 one fateful evening at the Groucho Club in London where for the next five years she ran residencies around Soho and East London, working extensively within the members club circuit (Groucho Club, Soho House, 5 Hereford St., Lights of Soho, Devonshire Club, The Kings Head), and headlined at some of the world’s largest music festivals including Glastonbury, The Secret Garden Party and The Toronto International Film Festival, and hosted her own music and culture radio show “The Smoking Guns Sessions” on Soho Radio alongside her fellow soul-music-loving co- host Iraina Mancini, where they would share their music expertise and interview accomplished guests from the music, art, journalism, fashion and entertainment industries.

Originally from Toronto, Canada, Samantha moved to New York City at the age of 17. Directed by her love of music, she began her tour of nightlife and her passion for cinema and storytelling, and later graduated from NYU and Oxford University where she studied dramatic literature, politics, and art. She was the first student at NYU to pursue a self-designed major at the College of Arts & Science, studying “The Role of Religion in The Rhetoric of US Foreign Policy” with minors in Dramatic Literature and Studio Art. She has also studied European history, art history, sociology and drama at Herford College, Oxford University. After graduating in 2011, she moved to Los Angeles where she began her career as an actress, and has worked internationally on feature films including Atom Egoyan’s The Captive and Matthew Johnson’s Operation Avalanche, as well as, network TV programs such as Showcase’s Lost Girl and Guillermo Del Toro’s The Strain. She has starred in a number of theatre productions, from the classics, Strindberg and Ibsen to new writing.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
1. An appreciation for 60s soul, rhythm and blues, rock and roll music.
2. An understanding of how one can take their negative or challenging life experiences and transmute those experiences into projects and engagements that are fundamentally positive, creative and collaborative.
3.The limitlessness of one’s creative pursuits and the value in exploring a diversity of modes of creative expression.

137: Valerie Jarrett, Former Senior Advisor to President Obama


On the show today, I interview Valerie Jarrett, United State Of Women co-chair and former Senior Advisor to President Barack Obama.

The United State of Women is a national organization for any woman who sees that we need a different America for all women to survive and thrive — and wants to work collectively to achieve it. USOW amplifies the work of organizations and individuals at the forefront of the fight for women’s equality, and provides tools, access and connections that help women see and step into their power to break down the barriers that hold women back.

On the heels of the 2018 United State of Women Summit, USOW is convening communities across the country and equipping women with the tools they need to keep fighting for gender equity. And we’re coming to New Mexico next! Join us at the Galvanize Program in Albuquerque on December 1st for a day of connecting with local allies, learning about the work being done in New Mexico and across the country, and training breakouts based on how you want to make an impact, including: Advocacy and Organizing, Leadership, and Entrepreneurship.

The day begins with a high-energy mainstage session where participants will hear from local and national leaders and includes and attendees will be able to network with organizations and individuals making an impact in different areas of gender equality.

The cost to attend the Galvanize Program is $50 and a scholarship application is available. Attendees are responsible for their own housing and transportation.

What can you do? My list from the Santa Fe New Mexican Op-ed:

  1. Support and fund good journalism eg. news outlets that provides fact checked, unbiased reporting based on multiple sources.
  2. Support media literacy focused on gender issues in schools eg. http://www.medialit.org and https://medialiteracynow.org
  3. Support women in media eg. Women’s Media Center, Center for Media Justice, Common Sense Media, Women in Media & news.
  4. Help elect more women to public office and ask women in your life to run for office eg. Emily’s List, Emerge America, Women Elect
  5. Use your privilege to see that more women are elected to boards of directors.  Women Corporate Directors, https://www.womenonboards.net
  6. Support and promote girls and women’s mentoring programs, especially for careers in technology. eg. Women Who Code, Executive Women’s Forum.
  7. Reflect on how you contribute to sexism. Decide from this day forward only to measure girls and women by their accomplishments and not by how they look or their ability to bear children. Eg. Do you judge other women for the way they look? Do you ask or expect girls and women to look a certain way? Or subtly prepare girls for their child bearing role later in life by giving them only dolls instead of building blocks?
  8. Speak up yourself and support other people who speak up and hold others accountable.
  9. Support programs that focus on the “macho paradox” and the movement of men working to promote gender equality and prevent gender violence. eg. http://www.themachoparadox.com/
  10. Do what’s right, not what’s easy. eg. don’t watch movie after movie with your kids (male or female) with no female protagonist. Watch films that pass the Bechdel Test – films with women talking to other women about something other than men. See http://bechdeltest.com; speak up when you see someone behaving inappropriately.PLUS…..
  11. VOTE! Early voting is open
  12. Attend Galvanize NM on December 1st! https://www.theunitedstateofwomen.org/galvanizenewmexico/

You can also continue the conversation in the Well Woman life community group at wellwomanlife.com/facebook.

The Well woman show is thankful for support from Natural Awakenings Magazine in New Mexico and High Desert Yoga in Albuquerque.

136 Learn How To Tell The Truth with Lauren Zander


Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international coaching company based in New York City. She is the author of Maybe Its You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017) and has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private and corporate clients from around the world.

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What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • A new understanding of what it means to be an author of one’s life.
  • Why it’s imperative to learn how to tell the truth.
  • How to set up a system of promises and consequences to help you reach your desired results.

Find out which areas of life you may need to work on with the free coaching tool from Lauren Zander and Handel Group, The Current Reality Quiz. It’s an easy (and fun!) way to self assess. http://bit.ly/WWCRQ
Inner.U is the digital coaching course from Lauren Zander and Handel Group – 14+ hours of audio coaching, 50+ written assignments, community chat, and much more. Use code WELLWOMAN75 for $75 off a subscription level at checkout! InnerU.Coach

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Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life


135 Courageous Conversations about Race and Equity with Jenn Roberts


What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • what talking about race and equity in your company or institution means
  • when to know you’re ready to have a courageous conversation about race and equity
  • knowing when you’re really good at what you do

Jenn Roberts is an educator, facilitator and mother who brings over 15 years of experience and passion in race and equity work. She began her career in education teaching 3rd grade in Chicago Public Schools. After teaching she went on to support new teachers in the classroom, develop curriculum for new teacher certification, and train school leaders in best practices in human capital. In 2011 she moved to DC Public Schools, where she helped to lead the DCPS Office of Human Capital in developing the will, skill, and courage to interrupt inequities and create more equitable policies and outcomes for DC students. She founded Versed Education Group in 2015 to continue this work, assisting organizations in developing their skill to operate from a place of equity as a habit. She served as the Equity and Inclusion Lead on the Make the Breast Pump Not Suck Project and is a proud alumna of Spelman College, which she credits in nurturing her desire to lead through service. Jenn lives in DC with her spunky and creative 6-year-old daughter, Nia.

Resource from Jenn:

Liberating Structures: http://www.liberatingstructures.com/ls-menu/

134 Choosing Wonder Over Worry with Amber Rae


Choosing Wonder Over Worry with Amber Rae
“wonder gets socialized and conditioned out of us”

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What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • How to reignite wonder and stop the worry
  • How to stop pushing or forcing outcomes and start flowing
  • How to pause to integrate and still reach your goals!


Other episodes mentioned in this interview:
Julia Cameron https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/018-trusting-your-inner-voice-with-julia-cameron/id1089410150?i=1000398662234&mt=2
Byron Katie https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/075-how-to-identify-question-stressful-thoughts-that/id1089410150?i=1000398662189&mt=2

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133 Characteristics of Leadership with Lillian Montoya


While women are half the population and earn about half of all law and medical degrees, and represent half of the college educated workforce, according to the Pew Research Center data on women leaders, the share of female CEOs of Fortune 500 companies topped just 5% for the first time in the first quarter of 2017, with 27 women heading major firms. As recently as 1995, there were no female CEOs on the Fortune 500 list.

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The share of women sitting on the boards of Fortune 500 companies is also low though it has more than doubled, from 9.6% in 1995 to 20.2% in 2016.

And according to the Center for American Progress, as recently as 2016, 43 percent of the 150 highest-earning public companies in Silicon Valley had no female executive officers at all.

And we know that women in top US political roles and academic leadership are also lagging, with numbers well under what would be considered equal representation.

In order to understand the challenges women leaders face and provide tools and resources to grow female leadership, I co-presented the first Women’s Leadership Summit with Albuquerque Business First earlier this week.

On the show today, I interview one of the keynote speakers at the Summit, the new CEO of Christus St. Vincent, Lillian Montoya. Montoya is the first female in the position. We talk about her leadership style, her confidence and her vision while getting to know her personally during the superpowers for success segment.

Lillian Montoya is a seasoned operations professional with extensive leadership experience spanning 25+ years in the public, private, and non-profit sectors, consistently orchestrating sustained advantages in the face of uncertainty and resistance. She is the new president and CEO of Christus St Vincent, a Santa Fe-based not-for-profit health care system serving more than 300,000 people in seven counties, employing more than 2200 physicians and associates with nearly $400 million in annual revenue.

What you’ll learn in this episode: 
1) How to prepare for the moment you will need compassion and patienct
2) What Montoya considers to be a good leader
3) Why you don’t always need to be an expert and give yourself the permission to not be the expert in the room


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Book mentioned on the show: Everybody Matters https://www.everybodymattersbook.com/

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132: Does networking have to be awful? with Suzanne Garber


This week we talk to Suzanne Garber about networking and about her experience making a documentary about healthcare.

Guest bio:

Co-founder of Gauze, the worlds most comprehensive digital network of international hospitals, Suzanne Garber directed and produced GAUZE: Unraveling Global Healthcare a PBS documentary that highlights her journey to 24 countries, 174 hospitals and interviews with 65 healthcare experts. Her work as COO, International SOS and Managing Director, FedEx South America has taken her to 100+ countries and all 7 continents. Holding Master and Bachelor degrees from the University of Pennsylvania and Rutgers University respectively, Suzanne has been featured in US News & World Report, The New York Times, Businessweek and hundreds of other media outlets and conferences that focus on globalization, risk mitigation, and international healthcare. She is a two time ovarian cancer and adult congenital heart defect survivor.

131 Preview of SuperPOWER Retreat with Kimberlee Maresma


Today’s topic is mental health and nutrition, and hopefully by the end of the show you’ll be inspired to take action to support your health through mindfulness practice.

What you’ll learn in this episode:
How mental health and nutrition impact women’s lives
How sleep issues and anxiety are related to what you put in your body
What women know innately about their health and mental health

Kimberlee Maresma is a licensed professional clinical counselor with a background in exercise physiology and holistic nutrition. She was first introduced to Mindfulness Meditation at age 25 with her studies of Ayurvedic Medicine/Yoga with Dr. Lad. She teaches mindfulness skills to clients to ease anxieties and depressive traits. She has a deep love for family, positive community, the great outdoors, meditation, physical movement, reading as well as a passion for cooking healthy and beautiful food.

130 How to Communicate to Show Confidence in the Workplace with Andie Kramer


Have you ever said something in a meeting and someone else basically repeats your idea and gets credit for it?Or you keep being interrupted in meetings or discussions?

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It’s time to claim your space, well women. Stand your ground. Say your piece. We are socialized to politely defer to others, because what we are saying couldn’t be that important right? Wrong. Or we make a statement that sounds like a question…it’s so easy to give away our power and confidence. But you know what? It’s also easy to claim it.

Andrea Kramer is co-author of the book Breaking Through Bias: Communication Techniques for Women to Succeed at Work, She is also co-author of What You Need to Know About Negotiating Compensation, as well as over 150 articles and blog posts on promoting diversity and overcoming gender stereotypes and biases.

What you’ll learn in this episode:
1. tips on how to avoid being interrupted in meetings and discussions;
2. how to project power by claiming your seat at the table,
3. how to say “no” to projects that do not advance your career.

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