Many of us can recall a time in our lives when we felt purposeless. Perhaps we lacked direction, or we weren’t sure what steps to take in our career. In these moments of uncertainty, the words of others can be very influential. Sometimes that’s a a great thing; when we receive encouragement and reminders of our strengths, though sometimes we receive advise that leads us down a negative path. For Lexi Palmer, the negative advise she received ended up being positive. Without having received advise to settle and not take risks, she woulnd’t have been able to discover her inner strength and worth and reach her goals through internal motivation.
In this episode, I speak with Lexi Palmer. Lexi is the CEO of Equisec, a research based company whose goal is to share research and help horse owners learn as much as possible about their horses, primarily through genetic tests and continuous scientific discoveries. An avid equestrian from birth, Lexi has most of her life immersed in various aspects of equestrian life. Lexi was a member of Palos Verdes Pony Club as well as a top competitor for the Palos Verdes High School Equestrian team, winning numerous championships for her school. In the show arena, she has earned many accolades including a top ten spot in the California Professional Horseman’s Association medal finals. Lexi is a graduate of The University of New Mexico and obtained a Bachelor’s Degree in Interpersonal Communications. She is also well known in the Albuquerque Public School district for her inspirational presentations on goal setting for avid students. In this episode, Lexi and I talk about the importance of included women in the tech industry, listening to your inner voice instead of criticism from others, and for only accepting what you are worth.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
- How you can find internal confidence and strength when no one else is showing you support
- Ways to recognize who in your life does not have your best interest in mind
- Tips for building the internal strength to leave a situation that doesn’t serve you and start out on your own
More About Lexi
Following college, Lexi found a traditional 9-5 job. She reflects that “I was never the over achiever, not the smart kid.” Feeling uninspired and directionless, she followed the advice of others and “did the things society tells you to do when you’re twenty-two.” After a year of working a job she did not enjoy, she realized she could not continue down that path. “No one told me I could do anything amazing, so I never believed I could.” Lexi lacked encouragement from her peers, which left her with one source of motivation; herself.
Soon after leaving her job, Lexi accepted a position with Equisec. Having nothing to lose, she threw herself whole heartedly into her work. “I had no option but to keep moving forward.” She knew that she had greater potential than others told her, and she recognized that hard work and faith in her own abilities would be the way to get there. She recalls, “I had no idea what I was doing, but this is better than what I would be doing with a nine to five.”
After less than a year at Equisec, Lexi’s boss approached her and asked where she would like to see herself in in the company. “CEO,” she responded, and soon enough she was offered the position. Lexi explains that it is her sense of internal motivation and commitment to her values that has brought her to where she is. No matter what hardships she faces, she knows she’s “worth everything I decide to be worth” and has confidence in “what I am worth and know what I stand for.”
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We’ve all heard it before: we need to put our own needs first before we care for those around us. Easier said than done! For many of us, putting our own needs first seems implausible. There are children to be fed, a house to clean, work assignments to finish. All of these things need to be done and they all need to be done now. We know that our personal care has to fit in there somewhere, but where?
According to Kirsten Roberts, when you “sacrifice yourself, you’re never going to be the best person you can be for the ones you love.” Perhaps if we change our perception about our personal needs then we will begin to put ourselves first. Although this is a roundabout way of thinking about self-care, for some women this may be the best way to get them to actually begin prioritizing themselves.
As a former do-all-er, Kirsten understands that sometimes it’s a perspective shift that gets a woman to change her behavior and discover the joy she’s been missing. In today’s episode I speak with Kirsten Roberts, founder of Radical Life, a program that helps women “build their wildly fulfilling business, learn the art of crazy self-love and live with uproarious laughter every day.” Kirsten was named one of Smart Company’s Top 50 Female Entrepreneurs in Australia, was CEO and co-owner of the franchised food group Spudbar and built a consulting arm for the accounting firm Crowe Horwarth where she signed $7m worth of contracts in the first two years of operation. Today I talk with Kirsten about self-love, finding laughter everyday, and breaking free from the anxiety cycle.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
- How you can begin to put your needs first without feeling guilty and do so in a way that benefits those around you
- Some easy steps you can take to begin incorporating self-love into your daily routine
- How to adjust your language so you’re learning to love yourself into healthy behavior rather than shame yourself out of unhealthy habits
More About Kirsten
Kirsten comes from a history of business success. She’s always been the type to succeed in whatever she put her mind to, but after reaching her professional goals she found herself in a tough spot. She wasn’t happy, she was constantly comparing herself to others, and she didn’t know what to do next.
After a series of particularly difficult events, Kirsten sought help from a life coach. She would be the first to tell you that even those who seem to have everything together can benefit from some guidance and mentorship. She realized that she was living in a constant state of anxiety, “living life braced” for the next failure or meltdown and never simply appreciating day-to-day joys. Kirsten decided to adjust her perception of life, beginning with small steps such as daily affirmations, to bigger ones such as health and diet changes.
While Kirsten seeks to each day create “uproarious laughter” in her life, she also acknowledges the importance of accepting the dark periods in our lives. If you think of joy as a candle, “we can’t see the gorgeous flicker and the warmth of the candle unless there’s a dark contrast.” Rather than drown out our emotions with distractions; TV, alcohol, food; she recommends we welcome the dark times, take the lessons they give us, and move on when the time is right. After you are out of the darkness, it will be hard not to be teeming with wild fulfillment!
Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:
Getting up early and meditating every morning.
What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?
That I can inspire women.
What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?
The journey creates who you are, so don’t beat yourself up on the journey.
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