Posts Tagged ‘Well woman life’

022 Leadership Through Listening with Tamara Thorpe

We often associate strong leadership skills with a strong voice. A leader gets their voice heard and has the ability to unite others behind their vision. The piece that is often forgotten in successful leadership, though, is the role of listening. If a leader wants to be successful in achieved their goals, they must be able to listen to those that they are leading to make sure everyone’s input is included, not just their own. Otherwise their followers will feel unacknowledged and look elsewhere for support.

According to leadership expert and founder of The Millennials Mentor Tamara Thorpe, the importance of listening if integral in every facet of our lives; be it work life or family life. Today I speak with Tamara about true leadership skills, the importance of listening, working and communicating with millennials, and organizing time to make sure that your attention is truly on whatever task you are currently handling.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How you can use compassion and listening to be the best leader possible
  • Tips for being a stronger leader by using a secret tool
  • How you can pull yourself out of difficult times by using your community and resources
  • What you can do TODAY to figure out your leadership strengths

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More About Tamara

Prior to starting her consulting work with millennial aspiring leaders, Tamara consulted with people her age or older. Although she was achieving success, she continually found herself more frustrated in her work than fulfilled. Finally one day it hit her, “as an entrepreneur there’s no reason to put all of your energy into running a business if you’re not happy.” She took a leap and refocused her business to work exclusively with millennials, and she hasn’t looked back.

Tamara loves working with a younger generation because she finds that there’s a sense of “reciprocity in the knowledge sharing”; she both gives and receives. One of the key points that Tamara stresses to millennials is the importance of listening, something that she had to learn when she was just starting in her career. At a young age she found herself in a position of power and acted as she thought leaders ought to: with an air of bossiness. She didn’t listen well and put her own ideas first, and it didn’t work out for her. She urges millennials to avoid the mistake she made, and make listening a priority if they want to become successful leaders.

Tamara has found that listening has been her saving grace in moments of success and in hard times. By listening to her inner voice she was able to the take career leap she knew she needed. Also, by listening to her loved ones and community in difficult times she is able to take comfort in their support and benefit from the wisdom of their words.

While Tamara leaves her leadership role in the workplace, she does continue to value the importance of listening when she is at home. Once work hours are over she turns her phone off and is present with her family. No phone, no distractions, just attention. For those of us that feel like our family members are always on their phones and never seem to listen to us, perhaps we should model Tamara’s methods. Lead by example and listen first.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Being a good friend.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Continue to do the hard work.

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TamaraThorpe.com

 

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019 Curiosity Instead of Judgment: Overcoming Self-Sabotaging Behavior with Anna Sperlich

Have you ever found yourself on the brink of success or just about the take a leap into a new career or life endeavor, and something happens to sabotage the whole thing? What’s more, have you ever found that the undoing was your own fault? This tendency to self-sabotage on the brink of big success is not so uncommon.

According to Anna Sperlich, there is an evolutionary reason for this trend. When humans lived in a more primal age and fatal danger could be lurking around every corner, it made the most sense to do whatever possible to maintain status quo. Logically, our chances of staying safe were higher if we could simply maintain whatever it was we were currently doing, rather than trying something new and different. Also, it would have been best for us to act like those around us. If we did anything too unusual we may risk being rejected by our families and communities, and the safety they provided.

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Today, this translates to us getting an innate tug of apprehension at the idea of trying something new: we could fail! We could be shamed! We could be kicked out of our communities! Luckily, the threats we face today don’t have the deadly outcomes that they once were. However we are still held back by this instinctive fear of change, which leads us to to self-sabotage. Today I go into depth with Anna Sperlich about why we self-sabotage, what we can do to change this behavior, and how we can use curiosity rather than fear and judgment to direct our lives onto a successful, stress-free track!

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • Why it is so important to surround yourself with supportive, motivational people, and how you can do this even if they aren’t physically around you
  • The first steps you can take to end your cycle of self sabotaging and find success and happiness
  • How you can end your judgment of yourself and the world around you to find greater self contentment
  • How you can end unhealthy habits in your life and forgive yourself for slip-ups

More About Anna

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Anna Sperlich is a registered addiction therapist, counselor, yoga instructor, eating disorder coach, empowerment coach, and inspirational speaker. She resides in Berlin, Germany where she lives with her partner and two young children.

Anna came to be in the field of coaching through her own experiences with disordered eating and anxiety. While has always been skilled at helping others to see their innate strengths, at times she has struggled to see her own worth. Through training and self-work, Anna now has a healthy, nonjudgmental way of viewing herself, the world, and the actions of those around her, which she shares with her clients as a tool to recovery.

While Anna often works with women with disordered eating, an overriding theme of her work is eradicating the compulsion to self-sabotage. “Our success is only limited by our self worth,” she explains. We must learn to love ourselves, and unlearn the detrimental self-criticism so many of us have been trained to do, if we want to achieve success and happiness. Anna suggests that to start we ought to “come from a place of curiosity rather than judgment” when looking at both our environment and ourselves.

One of the biggest tools Anna advocates for her clients is taking care of self. She explains that “we need to make sure that our own cups are full before we can pour out to others,” and she employs these words as a doctrine. Even if we have many roles to fill, we can’t meet any of them successfully unless we tend to our own needs first. Today Anna chooses not to focus on balance, but rather harmony, in her life.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Binge watching motivational videos on Youtube.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

I help people to find their greatness.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

You are good enough.

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www.AnnaSperlich.com

Thrive by Arianna Huffington

Get Rich, Lucky Bitch! by Denise Duffield Thomas

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015 Reclaiming Your Power with Robin Anderson

Do you ever feel as though you surrender your own needs for the sake of others, and don’t get anything in return? Or perhaps you’ve experienced the frustration of putting your whole self into a project or idea, and the credit goes to someone else?

For many of us, there is a tension between realizing our dreams that we so deeply desire, and being the ‘good girl’ we’ve often been told to be; helpful, giving, and accommodating. According to women’s empowerment advocate Robin Anderson, when we put others before ourselves it is not merely frustrating; it is actually an act of surrendering our power. There are many ways in which people, especially women, have been programmed to do this everyday. Thankfully, Robin explains that there are very easy fixes to reclaim your power and, as she puts it, becoming who you were meant to be.

On the show I speak with Robin Anderson, women’s empowerment advocate, author, former teacher, and Certified Professional Life Coach. Robin worked for many years as a teacher before realizing her calling to help women realize their potential and inner strength. She has worked to counter gender discrimination at the University level and developed a mentoring program for women to gain skills in their selected career fields. Today I talk with Robin about putting her needs to the side for others, learning to own her ideas when others tried to claim them, and helping women to replace self-doubt with self-love and power.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

    • How you can reclaim your power to strengthen your sense of self and your success in relationships, business, and love
    • Ways you are unconsciously giving away your power, and what you can do to break those habits
    • How you can ensure that you get credit for the ideas that you produce
    • How you can make yourself a priority and still take care of those around you, and why it is so important to do so

 

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More About Robin

Robin’s professional career began in education. It was not her dream to become a teacher, but in her young adulthood a woman was expected to put her needs aside for the sake of her husband’s professional pursuits. Luckily, her husband was eventually offered a position at a University, which gave Robin access to jobs at the University. She soon left teaching to work in University administration, where she joined numerous educational boards, often as the only female board member.

As a board member Robin found that if she didn’t claim her ideas as her own, other board members would take credit. Rather than fall silent when this occurred, Robin spoke up and defended her positions. She saw the need to bring more female perspectives into these influential boards, and took this on as her role. She helped to develop a report that revealed gender inequalities in staffing, and began a mentoring program for women to gain access to skills in their chosen career fields.

Today Robin works with women to examine the ways in which they give up ‘power’ in subtle ways. Examples are when women say no when they really mean yes, or begin a sentence with an apology. From her personal and professional experience, Robin knows that many women have untapped potential, and she works to help them realize and own it.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

I monitor what I eat and I exercise.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

I’ve always been a champion for girls.

Check Out The Links Mentioned in This Episode!

Chrysalis (Robin’s website)

Robin Anderson’s Biography

Reclaim Your Power: Become Who You Were Meant to Be

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012: Perfectionism As Distraction from Growth with Mary Kathryn Johnson

Perfectionism As Distraction from Growth

Many of us pride ourselves in our ability to overcome the obstacles life throws our way and succeed in our given fields. We seek out new challenges and love to use our skills to overcome them. Sometimes, though, we can become a bit obsessive in our drive for success, and it becomes a drive for perfection. Our perfectionism then becomes a distraction from true personal growth. For Mommy Loves founder Mary Kathryn Johnson it took a serious reality check, breaking both of her legs while eight months pregnant and caring for a toddler, that lead to her realization that she needed to slow down.

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Mary Kathryn is founder and owner of Mommy Loves, the first ever online novelty maternity clothing line, parenting blogger, podcast host, and author of Say Bump and Take a Left: How I Birthed a Baby and a Business After a Huge Bump in the Road. Today I speak with Mary Kathryn about the accident that forced her to slow down, the trials of having to give up some independence, and how the experience gave her a new sense of self and the drive to start a thriving business. What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • Tips and tools for using your unique skill set to grow your business
  • How to use your parenting tools to further your business, and your business-running knowledge to strengthen your parenting skills
  • Using adaptability to see the positive and advantage in any situation

More About Mary Kathryn

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Mary Kathryn has always been a type-A. Following graduation from UC Berkeley she got a job with Jenny Craig, and within three months was promoted to a manager position. That has been a common theme in her life: she seeks to do the best and be at the highest position she can achieve. However, when it came to having children, there was no formula to follow. Especially for Mary Kathryn, who at eight months pregnant had a serious fall that lead to two broken legs and three months of dependence on others. This was a very dark time for her, as she was used to being very independent.

Mary Kathryn recalls the day that she walked out of the hospitals, casts removed, as one of the best in her life. It was at that time that Mary Kathryn realized that perfectionism wasn’t her superpower; adaptability was, and still is. She had experienced a very dark time and came out feeling like if she could get through that, she could get through anything.

Becoming pregnant had proved to have its trials as well, which was another challenge for the perfectionist in Mary Kathryn. When her and her husband did become pregnant, she made a shirt as a celebration. She printed a report card onto a T-shirt that said ‘Pregnancy 101: A+.’ The shirt was a personal celebration for her, but she found that when she wore it she had a huge response from people that saw her. After Mary Kathryn’s recovery from her accident that t-shirt stuck in her mind. With her newfound confidence, she saw the T-shirt as a calling: this would be her business venture, Mommy Loves.

Thirteen years and a thriving business later, Mary Kathryn is still at it with Mommy Loves. She has also added additional projects to her plate, and now has a podcast and coaches parent entrepreneurs. She has developed a system to help parents start up their businesses using parenting as a guideline. Those skills necessary to care for a newborn are transferrable to the beginning months of starting a business, and the keys to caring for a toddler are transferable to a young business venture. Today Mary Kathryn remembers every day to slow down and use her adaptability to succeed.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

My morning routine.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

My adaptability.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Chill.

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Check Out The Links Mentioned in This Episode!

Mommy Loves

Mary Kathryn Johnson’s Website

Say Bump and Take a Left: How I Birthed a Baby and a Business After a Huge Bump in the Road