When we have a good idea, we often want to stick to the exact plan in our minds. We worry that if we give authority to other people, the project will fail because they don’t have the same passions and visions that we do. However, if our idea is meant to serve other people, it is absolutely essential that we include those affected in the planning process. According to Getrude Matshe If we stick entirely to our own plans and disregard the input of those that we serve, the project is bound to fail.
Getrude Matshe is an inspirational speaker who is currently spearheading women’s economic forum in NM and involved globally. Getrude is passionate about helping people achieve their full potential and find their individual life purpose. This makes her an energetic, inspirational and enlightening speaker. Getrude has written several books and is now a book writing coach. She is currently living in New Mexico, Lecturing part time at UNM while researching and writing her first screen play and is an Independent Film maker.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode!
- How you can determine which people to have at your side when you’re in the idea-developing part of creating a plan or project
- How relinquishing full control over your ideas may actually lead to their success
- How you can recover when your ideas are rejected by others
- Why it is important to have flexibility and ‘lead from behind’ to get greater results
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Something Getrude has learned over years of creating innovative, unique projects is is that you must be selective in who you share your dreams with. She compares a budding idea to a fetus; “if you’re pregnant, you nurture that baby, make sure nothing happens to it.” She explains that an idea can be destroyed by someone who is unable to see your vision, so it is in your best interest to share only with those who you know will be supportive and can understand the way your mind and actions work. “The minute someone says ‘that’s impossible,’” she explains, “I know I shouldn’t go further with that person- they don’t see it and they don’t get it.” This is a great insight to recognize, because it helps to iterate that it is not your idea that is weak, it is simply a failure of two minds to see the same vision.
While Getrude is particular about who she shares her ideas with in the beginning stages, once the ball is rolling she knows through experience that she must be willing to turn the project over to those it impacts most. “I’ve learned to manage from behind,” she says, explaining, “I’ve always found the more you can give people responsibility, the more you can empower them.” In this way, the individuals she gives responsibility to step up to fulfill the needs of the project and become inspired by both their own empowerment and the success of the work. This also helps to put Getrude and the people that she works with on the same plane. Instead of her coming in and forcing her ideas on others, everyone has equal input. This method has worked again and again, she explains, and she is “always pleasantly surprised by what the women come up with themselves.”
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When we set out to achieve a lifelong dream, we want to be in control. We have an idea of how we want things to look, and we know that we have the tools to turn our dreams in reality. As much as we may want to have full control over how our dreams are realized, sometimes this need for control can be disastrous. A difficult lesson that many of us need to learn is that we need to relinquish some control in our lives and seek out help from others. If we don’t do this, we risk burnout, and the possibility that those goals will never be achieved. For New Mexico Secretary of State Maggie Toulouse, experiencing failure was exactly what she needed to be able to relinquish control, delegate, and ultimately achieve her political aspirations.
My guest today is Maggie Toulouse. Maggie is Secretary of the State of New Mexico. She has served as Bernalillo County Clerk since 2007 and has made protecting the right to vote, improving the integrity of the election process and ensuring accountable leadership her top priorities. Maggie is a 2009 recipient of a New Mexico Technology Excellence award. In 2011, Maggie received the Distinguished Service Award from United Voters NM and Verified Voting NM for her work in promoting election integrity and in 2012 she was named one of NM Business Weekly’s “40 under 40” young professionals. Maggie grew up in New Mexico and currently lives in Albuquerque with her two sons. In this episode Maggie and I talk about the struggles she faced in her first fun for Secretary of State, what she learned about delegating tasks and relinquishing control through that experience, and how her perspective about balance has changed over time.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
- How you can achieve more by letting go, delegating, and prioritizing
- Why it is important to reach out to those you trust for help instead of trying to do everything on your own
- Why Maggie doesn’t believe in balance, and what she strives for instead
More About Maggie
Maggie has always been a go getter. She was a high achiever in school, always “trying to be the teacher’s pet.” As is often the case, this high reaching behavior resulted in unkind behavior from other students, damaging Maggie’s interpersonal relationships. As she got older she developed “a strong amount of humility
and some emotional intelligence” and began placing more value on interpersonal relationships and connections.
While she handles her successes with more humility now, that doesn’t mean she is not a high achiever. When she made the decision to run for Secretary of State of New Mexico, she put her all into it. In her first run for office, she “burnt the candle at both ends.” She discovered she was not able to be responsible for every aspect of the campaign while also maintaining some sort of balance in the rest of her life. Maggie was not elected in her first run, but she took away some useful lessons.
This experience reminded Maggie of the importance of letting go of full control. It also changed the way she thinks of ‘balance.’ trying to achieve this life of perfect balance is something we get caught up in and something we’ll never fully achieve,” she explains. With this mental approach in mind, Maggie went on to successfully reach the position of Secretary of State. “Stop beating yourself up,” she advises, and instead focus on organizing your times in smart ways.
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Do you ever feel that, with your many responsibilities and dedication to those around you, you lose a sense of self? In trying to provide and support our communities and families, at times we lose sight of our own spirit’s needs. According to Brain Educator Bette Castoria, the first steps to gaining a sense of control of your life is by gaining an understanding of how your brain processes the world, also known as Brain Education. Brain Education gives individuals the power to use their brain’s full capacity, as well as decrease stress, increase focus, confidence, and mindfulness.
In this episode I talk with Bette Castoria, a yoga instructor at Body & Brain, a holistic yoga and fitness center, and a Body and Brain Educator. Prior to discovering the benefits of yoga, Bette worked a nine to five job for twenty two years. Today I talk with Bette about how yoga and Brain Education have changed her life, how she was able to recognize that she wasn’t happy in her former way of living, and how she is able to stay calm in moments of frustration or anger.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
What Belly Button Healing is and how it can help you with physical pain
Bette’s tips for keeping calm and being thoughtful when she feels herself filled with anger
How Brain Education can help you to change your perspective, utilize your brain in a more creative way, and encourage greater productivity
More About Bette
Bette was introduced to Brain Education through yoga. She discovered a deep yoga practice eleven years ago, finding that yoga “woke up so much in me.” Yearning to take her practice further, she discovered Brain Education, which seeks to retrain the brain to be more creative, peaceful, and productive. Bette uses Brain Education with both children and adults. She loves working with children, as the influence of the education is so tangible. “I love to see the young person find their power,” she explains, “they have the ability to do what they want.”
Bette explains that Brain Education is an important tool for gaining control of our lives and our sense of independence. When seeking control and structure, we often “do it by holding, clinging, and controlling every aspect of [our lives and] everyone else’s.” By using Brain Education one can learn how to consciously change her perspective and discover a true sense of autonomy.
Prior to becoming a Brain Educator, Bette had a job where she made good money and could afford material pleasures. She reflects, “when I started yoga I started realizing [my lifestyle] wasn’t making me truly happy.” Since discovering the power of yoga and Brain Education Bette has found a deeper sense of fulfillment. These days, her sense of happiness comes from “waking up everyday and doing what I’m passionate about.”
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We tend to associate success with hard work. If we didn’t sweat for it, it doesn’t count. Unfortunately, that can sometimes result in us discrediting the successes we have that came easily. Perhaps we ought to change that attitude. If something comes easily to us, we ought to acknowledge that we have an intuitive ‘knack,’ and take advantage of it. For Women Make a Difference founder Val Romero, this struggle is very real. After working for years in finance and always viewing her people skills as just something that didn’t matter very much, she’s finally come to appreciate and benefit from those skills.
Today I speak with Val Romero, founder of Women Make a Difference. Women Make a Difference is a monthly luncheon meet-up developed to help women network and meet others in their community. Women Make a Difference has been hosting luncheons for over a decade and offers tech classes, a business directory, and services focused on increasing visibility and exposure for business owners. In 2015 Val was named a Woman of Influence Winner by Albuquerque Business First. Today I talk with Val about connecting with other women to get ahead, recognizing the strength in what comes easily to you, and learning how to network.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
Tips for starting up a conversation and making connections, even when you’re feeling out of your comfort zone
Why it is so important to be engaged with your female community and use each other as resources and sources of strength
How you can recognize your innate skills, and use them to help yourself and skill share with others
More About Val
Before starting Women Make a Difference, Val worked in finance in bookkeeping and office assistant positions. In these positions she excelled because of her social skills; she was always chatting with clients and making connections. She didn’t give much credit to her social skills, thinking of them as just being an insignificant part of the job. “Often if there’s something easy for us, we don’t count is as a value,” she reflects. It was only after years of friends and coworkers complimenting her networking skills that she began to consider doing something with this ability.
With Women Make a Difference, Val is able to utilize her social skills to help her career, as well as to help and train other women to grow in theirs. The foundation of Women Make a Difference is an emphasis on the importance of women helping one another. Val models this principle by showing other women how they can be social, network, and make authentic connections. She also urges women to own their innate skills. “When people are acknowledging you for things you’ve done that were easy,” take credit for them, she encourages. The decision to take ownership of her innate skills is how she ended up where she is today with Women Make a Difference. Seek strength from one another, she suggests, because we are all stronger together.
Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:
Having a positive attitude.
What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?
I’m easy to build rapport and trust with.
What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?
Set more boundaries and learn to say no.
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We all seek to create or contribute to work that aligns with our inner principles. When we contribute to something that matches our sense of morals, we are approaching our working from a pure, authentic place while simultaneously encouraging growth and balance in ourselves. For architecturally-trained preservationist Rachel Prinz, this means using readily available resources to achieve her goals. She does this in her work, by creating architectural projects that use local resources and traditional building techniques, as well as in her internal life, by turning within and finding strength and a positive perspective from her own reserves.
Rachel is an architecturally-trained American author, designer, preservationist, documentary filmmaker, artist and speaker working primarily in sustainability and preservation research and architectural engagement. Rachel has served as a preservation commissioner in Taos, as the host of the UNM-Taos Sustainability Institute, and as co-host of TEDxABQWomen. She has given multiple TEDx and Pecha Kucha talks on modern applications of vernacular design and critical regionalism, landscape preservation, pattern languages, and photography and epicanurism. Rachel gives presentations, tours, and lectures and has writes articles that integrate archaeology, architecture, place, culture, and emerging trends in sustainability. Today I talk with Rachel about the work she does and the importance of using sustainable resources, how she learned to let her intuition guide her, and how she is able to see one of the biggest challenges, a loss of eyesight, as a blessing.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
- Rachel’s tips for persevering and pushing forward even when you’re feeling lazy or apathetic
- How to use others’ criticisms as a way to develop fearlessness and strength
- How Rachel is able to adjust her perspective around devastating news to use it to her advantage
More About Rachel
Rachel learned to turn inward for strength at a young age. As a schoolchild, she “drove my teachers crazy. I was curious about everything.” Rachel was always asking for more knowledge, and this led her to being ostracized for her curiosity and eccentric interests. Instead of being defeated, she “developed a bravery from being considered weird.” As she got older she came to use this bravery as a source of strength and a teaching tool for others; “I could use my fearlessness to show people how to be fearless.”
This fearlessness came into play a few years ago, when Rachel received the devastating news that she was losing her eyesight. This information is particularly catastrophic for someone seeking an architectural license, a feat that demands long hours and constant use of eyesight. Initially, Rachel was devastated. Her dreams of becoming an architect were dashed. But she turned to that inner fearlessness and found strength. And “it’s work,” she admits. “It’s coming up against the wall and saying ‘I have to find a way up, over, or around this. No one else will do it for me.’” Today, Rachel sees the loss of eyesight as a gift. It has taught her to “not take for granted what could go away tomorrow.”
Rachel’s solution seeking attitude is reflected in the work that she does. As a preservationist, she is always looking for ways to make her architectural projects sustainable, locally sourced, and created through traditional techniques. When somethings goes wrong, breaks, or loses its efficiency, she can easily and locally find a fix. This approach mirrors her attitude about life: “We’re trying to create something with our lives when we’re working in alignment with our highest good.”
I struggle with remnants of an eating disorder, so any practice that makes me want to nourish my body and soul is a delicious thing!
Practice listening carefully.
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