Have you ever said something in a meeting and someone else basically repeats your idea and gets credit for it?Or you keep being interrupted in meetings or discussions?
It’s time to claim your space, well women. Stand your ground. Say your piece. We are socialized to politely defer to others, because what we are saying couldn’t be that important right? Wrong. Or we make a statement that sounds like a question…it’s so easy to give away our power and confidence. But you know what? It’s also easy to claim it.
Andrea Kramer is co-author of the book Breaking Through Bias: Communication Techniques for Women to Succeed at Work, She is also co-author of What You Need to Know About Negotiating Compensation, as well as over 150 articles and blog posts on promoting diversity and overcoming gender stereotypes and biases.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
1. tips on how to avoid being interrupted in meetings and discussions;
2. how to project power by claiming your seat at the table,
3. how to say “no” to projects that do not advance your career.
Most of us would be proud to call ourselves go-getters. It feels good to say you get ahead and you achieve your goals. Yet, for some of us, despite achieving the goals we set out, we still feel a sense of emptiness or lacking. Life and business coach Mary Hyatt explains that this is an important feeling to listen to. This feeling can be an indicator that your drive is coming from a place of self-defeat. That voice that tells you that you are not good enough or lovable just on your own- you must prove it. While Mary doesn’t bash those who are driven, she does explain that it is important to be sure that your drive is coming from joy rather than a yearning to be accepted, and she works with women everyday to fix this.
Mary Hyatt is a life and business coach, a holistic lifestyle advocate, and a Blue Diamond wellness advocate with doTERRA essential oils. After falling into a deep depression in her twenties, Mary had an awakening and realized that to live her life fully, she had to take charge of it. Mary works with women to “create exactly what they desire” in their lives through life and business coaching. While Mary lives in Nashville, she works with women across the country and is in the process of creating an online course to help women to love their bodies, no matter what size they are.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
- How to recognize if your drive is coming from an unhealthy place, rather than a place of love
- How to change your attitude to accept that you are lovable just as you are- you don’t need to do anything to prove it
- How to move away from negative, self-defeating behavior and recognize the positive in your life
- What it means to say our thoughts are connected to our emotions, and how you can use this knowledge to empower yourself
More About Mary
In Mary’s twenties, she dropped out of college and fell into deep depression. She experiences anxiety regularly, felt completely uncomfortable in her own skin, and gained 80 lbs. She recalls walking into the bathroom one day, looking in the mirror, and no longer recognizing herself. “The exterior wasn’t matching who I am on the inside.” She realized she didn’t want to live her life like that any more. “I was so numbed out, I was dead to the world- sleepwalking.”
Mary explains that “becoming aware” was the first part of her transformation. She began to look at her behaviors and her ways of thinking to find the “route cause of all of the numbing.” In addition, she became a student. She bought book upon book about self discovery and self help, finally depending on herself to take control of her life and read the books.
Today, Mary focuses on sharing what she has discovered in her journey with others. She focuses on helping women to learn to love themselves so they aren’t living their lives trying to earn love from others. At the moment she is particularly interested in living in the moment and acknowledging the positive. “We often relate to others on suffering, pain, hardships,” she explains, “it’s rare that people respond [to ‘how are you doing’ with a positive response.” Her current goal is to challenge herself to see “how good can I stand it before I feel like I need to self sabotage?”
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Do you ever feel as though you surrender your own needs for the sake of others, and don’t get anything in return? Or perhaps you’ve experienced the frustration of putting your whole self into a project or idea, and the credit goes to someone else?
For many of us, there is a tension between realizing our dreams that we so deeply desire, and being the ‘good girl’ we’ve often been told to be; helpful, giving, and accommodating. According to women’s empowerment advocate Robin Anderson, when we put others before ourselves it is not merely frustrating; it is actually an act of surrendering our power. There are many ways in which people, especially women, have been programmed to do this everyday. Thankfully, Robin explains that there are very easy fixes to reclaim your power and, as she puts it, becoming who you were meant to be.
On the show I speak with Robin Anderson, women’s empowerment advocate, author, former teacher, and Certified Professional Life Coach. Robin worked for many years as a teacher before realizing her calling to help women realize their potential and inner strength. She has worked to counter gender discrimination at the University level and developed a mentoring program for women to gain skills in their selected career fields. Today I talk with Robin about putting her needs to the side for others, learning to own her ideas when others tried to claim them, and helping women to replace self-doubt with self-love and power.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
- How you can reclaim your power to strengthen your sense of self and your success in relationships, business, and love
- Ways you are unconsciously giving away your power, and what you can do to break those habits
- How you can ensure that you get credit for the ideas that you produce
- How you can make yourself a priority and still take care of those around you, and why it is so important to do so
More About Robin
Robin’s professional career began in education. It was not her dream to become a teacher, but in her young adulthood a woman was expected to put her needs aside for the sake of her husband’s professional pursuits. Luckily, her husband was eventually offered a position at a University, which gave Robin access to jobs at the University. She soon left teaching to work in University administration, where she joined numerous educational boards, often as the only female board member.
As a board member Robin found that if she didn’t claim her ideas as her own, other board members would take credit. Rather than fall silent when this occurred, Robin spoke up and defended her positions. She saw the need to bring more female perspectives into these influential boards, and took this on as her role. She helped to develop a report that revealed gender inequalities in staffing, and began a mentoring program for women to gain access to skills in their chosen career fields.
Today Robin works with women to examine the ways in which they give up ‘power’ in subtle ways. Examples are when women say no when they really mean yes, or begin a sentence with an apology. From her personal and professional experience, Robin knows that many women have untapped potential, and she works to help them realize and own it.
Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:
I monitor what I eat and I exercise.
What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?
I’ve always been a champion for girls.
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