When people harm us, hurt us or sabotage us in some way, we often jump to anger and revenge. How can I get back at them? How can I gain back the power or status that they stole? According to entrepreneur Carolyn Tadamala, forgiveness is the answer. By forgiving them for their attacks, you allow yourself to take lessons form the incident and grow, rather than stagnantly dwelling on angry emotions and using your energy in petty, nonproductive ways. This tactic, Carolyn explains, is particularly useful when the failure was the result of your own actions. Imagine how much time and energy you would save if you simply forgave yourself for your mistakes, rather than wasting time suffering over them?
Today I chat with Carolyn Tadamala, India-based entrepreneur and founder of Éclair Patisserie, a bakery in Hyderabad. 90% of the profits of Éclair Patisserie go toward finding education for impoverished children and covering medical bills for children who are fighting cancer. Carolyn and I talk about incorporating family into your business, surrounding yourself with supportive people (and cutting out those that bring you down), burn out, and how to use forgiveness as a tool for self care.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
- How you can surround yourself with the people that support you and cut out those that bring you down
- Tips for handling and avoiding burnout
- How you can involve your family in your business and inspire them to support and love it
- How to move on when you’re angry with yourself or a coworker
More About Carolyn
Carolyn’s café, Éclair Patisarrie, is evidence of the growth she has had throughout her adulthood. She recalls a time earlier in her life when she was miserable to those around her, and as a result attracted miserable people. Carolyn made a decision to improve herself and to improve her surroundings, removing herself from people that hurt her or brought her down while at the same time working on herself to make sure she was treating herself and her loved ones kindly.
Improving the lives of those around her has become a central focus for Carolyn, in her work raising money for impoverished children, and in her personal life. While many of us struggle to care for the wellbeing of our family and the success of our business, Carolyn does the two together. From the very beginning she has included her family in the decisions around her business, finding that “Once they felt they were a part of it, it was easier for them to be accepting of the hard parts.”
Today I caught Carolyn at a pivotal moment; she was on the brink of burnout. She had been traveling, not getting enough sleep or exercise, and simply dealing with too much on her plate. In these moments Carolyn “jumps out.” She puts all of her responsibilities to the side and remembers her own self-care. She prioritizes rest, healthy diet, and exercise, and she asks herself a series of questions. “Who am I? What do I want to do? What do I need to get rid of to get to what I want? Who do I need to forgive?” By remembering the answers to these questions she is able to put herself back on track, and by offering forgiveness to herself and those around her she’s able to move forward and “jump back in.”
What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?
What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?
Don’t worry. It’s all going to work out.
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