Posts Tagged ‘motherhood’

073 How to Get What You Need by Asking for It with Emily Bennett

For anyone trying to start a business or new project, there’s a juggling act to be had. We need to rearrange our schedules and lives to make sure we can put sufficient energy into this new endeavor. Generally, that means taking away some time or energy from other responsibilities, or, as Emily Bennett of Baby Blastoff! has found, asking for help.

Emily Bennett is the founder of owner of Baby Blastoff!, a children’s clothing line aimed to transcending gender stereotype messages found in most children’s clothing.  Her clothing is USA-made, unisex, printed from Emily’s original artwork, and made from high quality fabric. Emily sources all materials from local, reputable businesses, and sustainably manufactures all products in Albuquerque, New Mexico, supporting her community economically. Emily has her masters in education, and prior to starting Baby Blastoff she taught kindergarten, first, and second grade for five years. In this episode, Emily and I talk about the challenges of being a solopreneur, how to create a schedule that allows you to nurture your business and your family or personal life, and why it is so important to encourage gender equality at a young age.


What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • What Emily does to maintain motivation as a solopreneur
  • How Emily is able to create a schedule that allows her to fill her roles both in her family and in her business
  • How you can use your creative skills to sell your product, business, or self


More About Emily

Emily began her business around the time that her son was born. In looking for clothing for him, she was shocked to see that so many of the clothing items available had phrases that blatantly perpetuated gender stereotypes, such as ““lock up your daughters,” or “tough guy.” “I can’t believe the messages we put on babies without thinking very much about how that impacts their lives and how others treat them.” Emily knew that other parents shared her dissatisfaction, so she decided to make clothing of her own.

Baby Blastoff! began in 2014, and seeks to create baby’s clothing with gender neutral or stereotype destroying messages. All of the clothing is meant for both boys and girls, though she hopes that she is able to encourage people to reexamine the words they use when speaking to any child. For her son and other boys, she “wants boys to have the message that they can be gentle. that’s part of being a boy too.” Emily explains, “we would all benefit from a world that was more equal.”

Emily’s business began at the same time that she began motherhood, and she quickly found that there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to take care of everything she needed to. She felt herself growing frustrated and resentful, and finally decided there needed to be a change. She and her family worked out a new schedule so that she could dedicate more time to her business. Right away, “that feeling of resentment melted away” and Emily was able to “get what I needed and take care of myself.”

For anyone hoping to start out on a business project on their own, Emily recommends that each day you ask yourself, “what can I do to feel productive today?” and be sure to ask for what you need both from your support system, and from yourself.


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Baby Blastoff

The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian by Sherman Alexie

065 How to Use Your Desires and Values to Make Decisions with Sunit Suchdev

When we’re embarking on a new project in our life: a business venture, a new relationship, children, everyone seems to have advice. At first, this seems like a blessing. There’s so much knowledge to be had, right next door! However, sometimes this advice can become overwhelming. Perhaps the person offering their wisdom is coming from a place of regretting their own experience, so their advice is more relevent to them and not necessarily useful for you. While usually well intentioned, sometimes these words will leave you feeling unprepared, overwhelmed, and insecure. According ot Modern Mommy Prepschool founder Sunit Suchdev, the best guide in leading you to make the right decisions is your own internal sense of values.

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My guest today is Sunit Suchdev. Sunit is the founder Modern Twin Mom and Modern Mommy Prepschool. Modern Twin Mom is a parenting blog, providing advice to new moms about how to have balance in parenting and life and how to prepare for parenthood. Modern Mommy Prepschool is a mother prep course, aimed at helping new moms to prepare for parenthood in the modern world. In this episode Sunit and I talk about the importance of having curiousity rather than taking everything as truth when it comes to advice, why it’s important to prepare ahead of time when you’re thinking about having children or making decisions about any huge life change, and how your internal values are probably the best guide you can find.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode

  • Sunit’s “Five Pillars” checklist to help you prepare for any new endevour
  • How you can handle situations in which people are offering unsolicited advice
  • What you can do when you are feeling overwhelmed, under-qualified, and uncertain of yourself

More About Sunit

Finding out about a pregnancy can be a very exciting event, but it can also feel scary. If you’ve never had a child before, it may seem that there are no models to look to, or too much advice that you are overwhelmed. Sunit suggests you start close to home. “Look around you,” she says, “you have tons of moms around you telling you what they’re struggling with or having success with.”

As a mother of twins, Sunit understands the common response when people see a round belly. Everyone wants to give their two cents. Sunit recommends expecting mothers “stay away from advice, but be very generous with your curiosity.” Look at the family dynamics that you admire and recognize what the members of the family do to create that structure.

Sunit mirrors this mentality in her mother coaching business: Modern Mommy Prepschool. By its nature, new or expecting mothers must seek her out to get direction and help in preparing for motherhood. And Sunit’s main message turns the light back to them; “use your own hopes and desires and values to guide the decisions you make.” Her biggest advice to uncertain new mothers is to remind them that their own internal sense of values and and intentions are their best guide. They are stronger and more prepared than they think.

Check Out the Links Mentioned in This Episode!

DotCom Secrets by Russell Brunson

Raising Happiness by Christine Carter Ph.D.

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060 How to Use Spirituality to Find Hope in Difficult Times with Vera de Chalambert

What do you do when you face a dark period? When your energy and reserves seem spent and there doesn’t seem to be a clear way out? For many of us, this is the time we cling tight to our resources and close off to anyone other than our immediate loved ones to weather the storm. When we face dark times our instinct is to create borders. The assumption is if we lay low, the dark time will pass and we can go back to our normal way of life. According to spirituality scholar Vera de Chalambert, it is in these times of darkness, when we hit our lows, that our spiritual awakenings often happen. And through these spiritual renewals we find a new, full, and deep source of energy and connectedness.

Vera de Chalambert is a mindfulness facilitator, spiritual storyteller and Harvard educated scholar of comparative religion. Through deep contact, conscious inquiry and holistic modalities Vera works with her clients’ energy-consciousness system to invoke wholeness, restore balance and invite deeper levels of integration and awareness to the client’s energy field, body and life. She is a graduate of the the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and has studied nondual healing with Jason Shulman at the Institute for Nondual Healing and Awakening. Vera works with clients and gives talks and presentations on spiritual topics and was a speaker at SAND Science and Nonduality Conference in the US and Europe and Sister Giant in Washington DC. Vera holds a Master’s degree from Harvard Divinity School. In this episode Vera and I talk about the importance of letting yourself feel darkness and chaos, why strong, feminine energy is significant in the current political climate, and how to use spirituality to find strength when times are dark.

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What You’ll Discover in this Episode:

  • How you can change your perspective to see the low times in your life as part of your spiritual journey
  • What Kali represents and how learning to recognize her in your life can help you to get through dark times
  • How shedding your ideas about yourself can help you to become stronger, more independent, and more spiritually balanced

More about Vera

As we grow and discover what we’re drawn to and away from, we create stories about ourselves. We develop a sense of identity and place deep faith in the validity of the reasons that it has been formed. When this idea about ourselves gets questioned or even shattered, it shakes us to the core. According to Vera, this dark time is actually “essential for the spiritual healing and awakening process.” But that doesn’t mean it comes easily. “What we really discover very often,” she admits, “is that the spiritual life makes us into losers.” We lose our superficial ideas about ourselves and we “begin to lose our ideas of god and our old certainties.”

For Vera, this is the “process of the Kali dance.” Vera describes Kali as a dark feminine energy that shows up in nearly all spiritual doctrines. Kali is “the great mystery that envelops us when we come into contact with a quality of reality that includes life and death, birth and resurrection.” Kali is the time we associate with darkness. This time is darkness because it encompasses everything; both dark and bright times, and that sort of seeming contradiction is difficult for our minds to accept, so in our confusion we cling to the darkness. But Kali is not bad, Vera explains. While she encompasses “life and death, [she is also] birth and resurrection.”

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Vera asserts that we are going through a ‘Kali dance’ right now, throughout the world. Times appear dark and hopeless, but in reality it is a process that is leading us to universally shed “so many of our false beliefs.” Vera encourages those who feel hopeless to think of this as a natural part of the cycle of life and a time of “being intimate with aliveness.” “We have one certainty in life,” she stresses, “and that’s that there will be times when things fall apart.”

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her by Vera de la Chalambert

Vera’s Website

Dark Gold by Carolyn Baker

The Instruction Manual for Receiving God by Jason Shulman

Sister Giant

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029 Finding Success in Juggling Roles with Jill Brown

We all have more than one focus in our lives. Each one is important in its own way, and the reality is we can’t put all of them first. Career, family, romance, spirituality ; it’s a constant juggling act. We can’t be successful in every aspect of our lives at the same time, and this fact can feel defeating. According to founder Jill Brown, perhaps it’s the juggling itself that should be the goal.

As a business owner, blogger, wife, mother of three, and active member in her community, Jill knows a thing or two about juggling. Jill is an Albuquerque-based landscape architect who provides landscape coaching to homeowners, both virtually and in-person. She is a licensed landscape architect, is certified in permaculture, and maintains a weekly blog with a landscape and gardening focus. Today Jill shares some of her landscape and gardening secrets and we discuss some of the time-saving tips she utilizes to maintain that juggling act.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • Jill’s top ten tips to transform your yard
  • How you can organize your home life so that you have more time for your business
  • Jill’s recommendations for finding and using your strengths
  • Jill’s organizations tips for balancing family life, social life, and business

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More About Jill

Jill worked as an employee of a landscape architecture firm for eleven years before taking the leap and opening her own business. While she has known since childhood that she wanted to work in landscape architecture (her father was a landscape architect), she “told everyone I knew that I would never own my own business.” She had always envisioned herself working for a firm, never taking on the responsibilities that business ownership requires. The decision came when she was pregnant with her third child and the notion of working for someone else, even part-time, seemed impossible with three children at home and a husband who worked full-time.

Jill didn’t open her business,, only out of necessity. She realized that she had the strength and skills to run her own business based on her relationships with her clients. Her clients were contacting her for work and advice long before she considered starting the business, which led her to understand that “they must believe that I’m capable enough to do the work by myself.”

In talking with friends and family about the new venture, Jill discovered something else. Many people wanted more than just landscape design; they wanted personal input and suggestions, something only Jill could do. She soon began to adjust her business model to create a landscape coaching component, which allows her to provide specific, thoughtful support to any type of client. Today Jill provides landscape architecture design, coaching, and tips and suggestions on her weekly blog.

With so many projects on her plate, plus the responsibilities of motherhood, Jill has set some important processes in place to make sure she can maintain the ‘juggling act.’ One of her biggest timesavers is setting routines for her family life, such as scheduled breakfasts and chore charts for her children. She explains that these steps allow her to “make less decisions, so the decisions throughout the day that I’m making are business decisions.”

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

My list making.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

I’m personable.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Don’t stress about it all.

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StrengthsFinder 2.0

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026: Conquering Fear with Fernanda Santos

In American media, there are stigmas associated with certain professions. Nurses are traditionally portrayed as women, firefighters are traditionally depicted as men, and reporters are native English speakers. For reporter Fernanda Santos, none of the usual stigmas ring true. As a Brazilian born reporter, Fernanda moved to the US when she was twenty-five to pursue writing. Eighteen years later, she is a staff writer for the New York Times, and has recently come out with a book about the lives, networks, and experiences of the Granite Mountain Hotshots.

Fernanda will assure you, her untraditional decisions were not easy ones to make. She has faced many times of dread, self-doubt, and questioning as she’s moved forward in her career as a journalist. Today I speak with Fernanda about the obstacles she had to overcome to get where she is today, how she came to use fear as a motivating tool rather than a ‘trap,’ and why her unique perspective is so useful in telling the stories of the fallen firefighters.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • What you can tell yourself when fear creeps up on you
  • Tips and secrets for beginning a massive project and seeing it through to completion
  • How to overcome doubts and insecurities when starting a new project
  • Fernanda’s advice for women seeking out nontraditional work

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More About Fernanda

Fernanda moved to the US from Brazil to pursue journalism when she was twenty-five. Growing up, her father had always told her that as a woman, she could “do exactly what a man could do, and [she] can do it better if [she] wants.” For Fernanda, this meant pursuing her dreams of becoming a successful journalist, which she has achieved successfully.

In her most recent endeavor, recounting the lives of the nineteen Hotshot firefighters who perished in the Yarnell Hill Fire in Prescott, AZ, Fernanda met a lot of obstacles; externally and from within herself. The lives of firefighters are usually excluded to a male voice, but Fernanda sought to explore the story from a female perspective. By using her unique narrative style she created a side of the story that perhaps would never have been shown, including an emphasis on the families and loved ones of those involved.

Fernanda feels that in a way the fact that she is a woman allowed her to become closer to her subjects. The partners, wives, and mothers of the firefighters were able to connect with her in a way they may not have with someone else. Fernanda recalls feeling that “there was a sense of ‘you understand what I’m talking about,’” as Fernanda is also a wife and mother.

Despite years of success, Fernanda still finds herself having moments of self-doubt or fear that she isn’t good enough. She’s learned to deal with fear by accepting it as a necessary part of her creative process, rather than something to be pushed away. In this way, she is able to accept it, examine it, and move past it without it burdening her down.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

The ability to juggle ten things at a time.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

You don’t have to be like other people.

Check Out The Links Mentioned in This Episode!

The Fire Line: The Story of the Granite Mountain Hotshots and One of the Deadliest Days in American Firefighting

Fernanda’s Website

“What We Fear” Ted Talk

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The free giveaway is excerpted from THE FIRE LINE: The Story of the Granite Mountain Hotshots and One of the Deadliest Days in American Firefighting. Copyright © 2016 by Fernanda Santos. Excerpted by permission of Flatiron Books, a division of Macmillan Publishers. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher. Available for purchase.