Most of us would be proud to call ourselves go-getters. It feels good to say you get ahead and you achieve your goals. Yet, for some of us, despite achieving the goals we set out, we still feel a sense of emptiness or lacking. Life and business coach Mary Hyatt explains that this is an important feeling to listen to. This feeling can be an indicator that your drive is coming from a place of self-defeat. That voice that tells you that you are not good enough or lovable just on your own- you must prove it. While Mary doesn’t bash those who are driven, she does explain that it is important to be sure that your drive is coming from joy rather than a yearning to be accepted, and she works with women everyday to fix this.
Mary Hyatt is a life and business coach, a holistic lifestyle advocate, and a Blue Diamond wellness advocate with doTERRA essential oils. After falling into a deep depression in her twenties, Mary had an awakening and realized that to live her life fully, she had to take charge of it. Mary works with women to “create exactly what they desire” in their lives through life and business coaching. While Mary lives in Nashville, she works with women across the country and is in the process of creating an online course to help women to love their bodies, no matter what size they are.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
- How to recognize if your drive is coming from an unhealthy place, rather than a place of love
- How to change your attitude to accept that you are lovable just as you are- you don’t need to do anything to prove it
- How to move away from negative, self-defeating behavior and recognize the positive in your life
- What it means to say our thoughts are connected to our emotions, and how you can use this knowledge to empower yourself
More About Mary
In Mary’s twenties, she dropped out of college and fell into deep depression. She experiences anxiety regularly, felt completely uncomfortable in her own skin, and gained 80 lbs. She recalls walking into the bathroom one day, looking in the mirror, and no longer recognizing herself. “The exterior wasn’t matching who I am on the inside.” She realized she didn’t want to live her life like that any more. “I was so numbed out, I was dead to the world- sleepwalking.”
Mary explains that “becoming aware” was the first part of her transformation. She began to look at her behaviors and her ways of thinking to find the “route cause of all of the numbing.” In addition, she became a student. She bought book upon book about self discovery and self help, finally depending on herself to take control of her life and read the books.
Today, Mary focuses on sharing what she has discovered in her journey with others. She focuses on helping women to learn to love themselves so they aren’t living their lives trying to earn love from others. At the moment she is particularly interested in living in the moment and acknowledging the positive. “We often relate to others on suffering, pain, hardships,” she explains, “it’s rare that people respond [to ‘how are you doing’ with a positive response.” Her current goal is to challenge herself to see “how good can I stand it before I feel like I need to self sabotage?”
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We all seek to create or contribute to work that aligns with our inner principles. When we contribute to something that matches our sense of morals, we are approaching our working from a pure, authentic place while simultaneously encouraging growth and balance in ourselves. For architecturally-trained preservationist Rachel Prinz, this means using readily available resources to achieve her goals. She does this in her work, by creating architectural projects that use local resources and traditional building techniques, as well as in her internal life, by turning within and finding strength and a positive perspective from her own reserves.
Rachel is an architecturally-trained American author, designer, preservationist, documentary filmmaker, artist and speaker working primarily in sustainability and preservation research and architectural engagement. Rachel has served as a preservation commissioner in Taos, as the host of the UNM-Taos Sustainability Institute, and as co-host of TEDxABQWomen. She has given multiple TEDx and Pecha Kucha talks on modern applications of vernacular design and critical regionalism, landscape preservation, pattern languages, and photography and epicanurism. Rachel gives presentations, tours, and lectures and has writes articles that integrate archaeology, architecture, place, culture, and emerging trends in sustainability. Today I talk with Rachel about the work she does and the importance of using sustainable resources, how she learned to let her intuition guide her, and how she is able to see one of the biggest challenges, a loss of eyesight, as a blessing.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
- Rachel’s tips for persevering and pushing forward even when you’re feeling lazy or apathetic
- How to use others’ criticisms as a way to develop fearlessness and strength
- How Rachel is able to adjust her perspective around devastating news to use it to her advantage
More About Rachel
Rachel learned to turn inward for strength at a young age. As a schoolchild, she “drove my teachers crazy. I was curious about everything.” Rachel was always asking for more knowledge, and this led her to being ostracized for her curiosity and eccentric interests. Instead of being defeated, she “developed a bravery from being considered weird.” As she got older she came to use this bravery as a source of strength and a teaching tool for others; “I could use my fearlessness to show people how to be fearless.”
This fearlessness came into play a few years ago, when Rachel received the devastating news that she was losing her eyesight. This information is particularly catastrophic for someone seeking an architectural license, a feat that demands long hours and constant use of eyesight. Initially, Rachel was devastated. Her dreams of becoming an architect were dashed. But she turned to that inner fearlessness and found strength. And “it’s work,” she admits. “It’s coming up against the wall and saying ‘I have to find a way up, over, or around this. No one else will do it for me.’” Today, Rachel sees the loss of eyesight as a gift. It has taught her to “not take for granted what could go away tomorrow.”
Rachel’s solution seeking attitude is reflected in the work that she does. As a preservationist, she is always looking for ways to make her architectural projects sustainable, locally sourced, and created through traditional techniques. When somethings goes wrong, breaks, or loses its efficiency, she can easily and locally find a fix. This approach mirrors her attitude about life: “We’re trying to create something with our lives when we’re working in alignment with our highest good.”
I struggle with remnants of an eating disorder, so any practice that makes me want to nourish my body and soul is a delicious thing!
Practice listening carefully.
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