Holly Caplan is a career coach, women-in-business advocate, award-winning manager and author of Surviving the D**k Clique: A Girl’s Guide to Surviving the Male Dominated Corporate World. For more information, please visit, www.hollycaplan.com.
What you’ll learn on this episode:
How you reinvent yourself when you’re ready for a re-do
What to do when you feel resistance in your job every day and you are not fully engaged
How to take more risks
Book: Ugly Love
Today’s topic is how mothering and the labor associated with nurturing and raising a family has historically been undervalued and hopefully by the end of the show you’ll be inspired to deeply value the work of mothering and stop guilting yourself and others into feeling bad when you pay attention to anything other than your family.
On the show today is my guest Merve Emre, author of Paraliterary and The Personality Brokers, a history of Myers-Briggs and the birth of personality testing that comes out in September. Starting in the fall, she will be associate professor of English at Oxford University.
When we’re on the cusp of a transformation, we are often very uncomfortable. We’re not content with our current lifestyle, but we don’t know exactly what to do to find that happiness. Our ideas about our identity and purpose are about to shift, and this can be a very scary prospect. The one thing worse than feeling stagnant is change: we want things to remain the same, because we don’t want to throw away all of our hard work. Who will we be without our achievements? According to Dr. Rosie Kuhn, when it’s time to make that change, “there’s a deconstruction process that you go through.” And the way to get through that deconstruction process is to shut off the external, and look within to find your true calling.
In this episode I speak with Dr. Rosie Kuhn, preeminent thought leader, coach and leadership facilitator. Dr. Rosie is a speaker, author, and facilitator. As a Transformational Life and Business Coach, she encourages her clients to think beyond their limited sense of reality. Her books, blogs, videos and podcasts engage and inspire her audience to question the source of their decision making. Dr. Rosie is considered to be a preeminent thought leader in the field of Transformation and Transformational Coaching. She is the author of many books, including Self-Empowerment 101, and newly published Cultivating Spirituality in Children. As the founder of The Paradigm Shifts Coaching Group, Dr. Rosie specializes in empowering individuals to fearlessly embrace transformation. She has worked in the field of transformation for over 20 years. In this episode, Dr. Rosie and I talk about how you can tell when it’s time to make a shift in your life, how to move away from fear-based decision making and lead with fierce love, and why it’s so important to embrace, rather than resist, transformation.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
- How Dr. Rosie inspires her clients to embrace change
- Why, if you want to be a successful leader, you need to be willing to experience transformations
- How you can begin your process of transformation
More About Dr. Rosie
Before founding the Transformational Coaching Training at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, Dr. Rosie working for 30 years as a life coach, marriage and family therapist, spiritual guide. She began her career as a clinical therapist for addiction recovery programs, and founded the The Paradigm Shifts Coaching Group in 1999.
Dr. Rosie helps people to find the right questions to ask themselves to begin the process of transformation. “Most people are not asking the right questions,” she explains, adding that then the “source of the insecurity is never revealed and expressed.” Instead, people will often live in cycles of anxiety, knowing that the way they are leading their lives is no longer fulfilling, but not having the tools or direction to make whatever change may be needed.
The most difficult part about making a life change is the vulnerability that is required. As a coach, she says that it is her job to “not support you in avoiding that vulnerability.” Instead, she helps her clients to answer the question: “how do you move forward even though you feel vulnerable, even though its messy?”
This work is essential for anyone who seeks to lead others or wants to find success. “To be truly a leader in the world means you have to face the stuff that’s messy,” Dr. Rosie explains, “because you’re going to lead people through messiness.”
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Today’s topic is How to Get Ahead in Your Career, on Corporate Boards and in Public Policy and hopefully by the end of the show you’ll be inspired to decide what you want, put your intentions out to the world, and take that calculated risk you’ve been considering,
My guest today is Catherine Allen. For more than 30 years, Catherine Allen has been a leader in business innovation, technology strategy, and financial services. Today, Catherine is Chairman and CEO of The Santa Fe Group, a strategic advisory services company based in Santa Fe, NM. The Santa Fe Group specializes in briefings to C-level executives and boards of directors at financial institutions and other critical infrastructure companies in the areas of cybersecurity, emerging technologies, and risk management.
What You’ll Learn in this Episode:
- the three areas to focus on supporting more women in leadership
- differences between millenial, generation x and boomers when it comes to women in business
- how many women on a board you need to make a difference
- what impacts economic performance in business
- how to get on a corporate board and what expertise you need
- what Catherine Allen worked with Julia Cameron on, author of The Artist’s Way
- where she gets a lot of her writing done
- how to compartmentalize in order to be in the moment in each part of your life
Women’s International Study Center
Equal Credit Act
The Santa Fe Group
Reboot Your Life
The Artist’s Way at Work
Warnings By Richard Clark
Design Your Life by Cornell Spears Lopez
When we think of community building, we often envision the end product, which likely includes the organizing and inclusion of people from all different walks of life around an issue or a sense of unification. What is missing from that vision is the most important part of community building; the process of getting there. According to community organizer and business incubator Pamela Slim, the are often good, logical reasons that communities tend to resist the change or openness necessary to bring a community together. From her perspective, the most important way of overcoming this resistance is not to sell yourself to the community, but sell the community to itself. Find the needs of the various community members, listen to why those needs are not being met, and provide the resources so that individuals can connect with one another, instead of taking over as authority.
Pamela Slim is an award-winning author, speaker and leader. She spent the first 10 years of her solo practice as a consultant to large corporations such as Hewlett-Packard, Charles Schwab and Cisco Systems, where she worked with thousands of employees, managers and executives. In 2005, she started the Escape from Cubicle Nation blog, which became one of the top career and business sites on the web. She has coached thousands of budding entrepreneurs, in businesses ranging from martial art studios to software start ups. Her latest book, Body of Work, was released with Penguin Portfolio in January 2014. In this episode, Pamela and I talk about why it is so important to have diversity in leadership positions, why pushing your ideas on a community is bound to fail, and how she puts authority in the hands of the community when it comes to community building.
WhatYou’ll Discover in This Episode
- How to focus on what a community needs rather than what you can offer and why this is important
- Pamela’s tips for applying successful community organizing tactics to a business
- Why it is so important to have diversity in leadership positions, and how you can encourage this to happen
More About Pamela
Pamela has been working in organizing all of her professional life. In her experiences as a consultant and a community organizer, one of the biggest takeaway she has learned is that you will find much more success if you address the needs of the community, rather than try to sell yourself to them. “If it’s just about you, its a hollow message,” she explains preferring to “teach leadership capacity for the people I work with.” She explains that if you try to be the leader of the community, the people that you serve will look to a mentor to have all the answers.” This then fails to achieve the goal of empowering the community, plus it will likely lead to failure once you, the leader, step away.
Instead, Pamela suggests that we look at community building from the perspective of the community members. “You always want to ask: who is here, who is not here, why aren’t they here, what can we do in order to make them feel more welcome.” She notes that a common mistake community builders make is to focus on demographics, rather than individual experiences. “instead of talking about diversity and inclusion,” she says, “talk about normalizing.” Understandably, community members won’t feel welcome if they are constantly reminded of their diversity. When we normalize who is actually here, people begin to feel more included, welcome, and valued.
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