Posts Tagged ‘family’

149 Just Giovanna: Family Vision Board 2019

How do you get your family members on the same page to work together toward goals for 2019? Get them involved! Here’s how:
1. make it fun
2. let them know if they give their input they will get their goal list for 2019
3. have a clear process
4. start and end within 1-2 hours, depending on the ages of the people involved! My kids ages 7 and 9 stuck it out on NYE for a good 2 hours because we had yummy snacks, everyone’s voice was heard, they got to find pictures and cut them out.

Family Vision Board




Past shows/publications focusing on visioning and goal setting:
059 Visioning Your Life (free worksheet)
079 Goal Setting (free worksheet)
147 Have It All By Doing More of What You Love, Not Less

Having it all in 2019: Do more of what you love, not less: Commentary in the Santa Fe New Mexican

040 The Female Voice in Politics with Ellen Malcolm

What does the word ‘feminism’ mean to you? Do you struggle over whether or not you identify as a feminist Many of us exemplify feminism in our actions in its true meaning, yet some of us have an aversion to identify with the term due to negative associations. EMILY’s List founder Ellen Malcolm has seen the rise and fall and rise again in popularity of the term. To her, the word itself is not as important as fighting for what it really means: equality between men and women. Today I speak with Ellen about how she advocates for gender equality and greater female representation in politics.

My guest today is Ellen Malcolm, founder and board chair of EMILY’s List, an organization that seeks to give female political candidates credibility and resources to win by developing a a donor network that encouraged members to contribute to the candidates EMILY’s List recommends. Ellen is a veteran Democratic activist and fundraiser who began her career as an organizer at Common Cause and later served as press secretary for the National Women’s Political Caucus. In 1980, Ellen went to work at the White House as the press secretary for President Jimmy Carter’s special assistant for consumer affairs. Ellen is a recipient of Planned Parenthood Federation of America’s Margaret Sanger Award — the organization’s highest honor and has been named one of the most influential women in America by Vanity Fair, one of Glamour magazine’s Women of the Year, and one of Ladies’ Home Journal’s 100 Most Important Women in America. Today I speak with Ellen about the changes and challenges EMILY’s List has faced over the years, the importance of including female voices in politics, and how she has been able to make real, sustainable change nationally.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • What you can do today to encourage more female and family friendly policies
  • How Ellen avoids burnout and why she thinks taking a break from work makes her a better, stronger worker
  • How you can get involved in the political system to make a difference from the inside out

More About Ellen

Ellen has been active in politics since the 60’s. After graduating college in 1969 she became involved in the anti-war movement and participated by demonstrating and becoming active in rallies; fighting from the outside. Ellen says she recognizes herself in Bernie Sanders-supporting millennials today. There is dissatisfaction with the way the government is running, and people want change. For Ellen, after trying to change from the outside and having little success, she “decided that I wanted to go inside the system and make a difference.” She knew that there was little female representation in politics, and decided to take this on as her challenge.

Ellen began EMILY’s List in 1985 to help connect funders with female candidates to ultimately introduce more female voices in to our government. “EMILY’s List is an acronym, standing for “Early Money Is Like Yeast” (i.e., it makes the dough rise),as Ellen recognized that financial backing is the starting point to get women into office. Thirty years later, EMILY’s List has seen the election of 11 female governors, 19 Senate members, 110 House of Representative members, over 700 state and local office successes, and the first female presidential candidate.

Today, EMILY’s list is proud to have seen such incredible change in a short period of time, but Ellen recognizes that there is still significant work to be done. She suggests the best way to initiate more change is for women to run for office, and she encourages any and all women to consider it.


Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Walk my dogs.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Public speaking.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Expose yourself to a lot of different things.


Check Out the Links Mentioned in This Episode!

EMILY’s List

When Women Win by Ellen Malcolm

Born to Run by Bruce Springsteen

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036 Power and Politics with Debra Haaland

As women, particularly those of us venturing out into sectors that are primarily male-dominated, we are sometimes confronted with conflict or confusion that arises out of misunderstandings. These situations are usually not a result of malice or deceit, but rather a lack of understanding of another’s experience or perspective. For New Mexico Democratic Chairwoman Debra Haaland, it is precisely this reason why having differing perspectives in politics is so important. It is particularly integral to include a variety of perspectives and experiences in positions of power, as those roles have the influence to determine where and to whom we should be dedicating resources and research.

Debra Haaland currently serves as the Chairwoman of the Democratic Party of New Mexico, and recently served as the delegation chair at the Democratic National Convention. As a member of the Pueblo of Laguna in New Mexico, Debra is the first Native American woman to lead a major state party in the country. Prior to leading the Democratic Party of New Mexico, she became the first Native American woman to run for lieutenant governor in New Mexico. Today I speak with Debra about the importance of diversity in politics, the issues about which she is passionate, and where she hopes to see politics in New Mexico and the US go.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode

  • How Debra is able to make a difference, even in the face of opposition and adverseray
  • Debra’s tips and advice for getting her voice heard and organizing others to get their opinions voiced as well
  • How Debra uses traditional values and culture to keep herself well

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More About Debra

As a woman and a Native American in politics, Debra is familiar with serving as the voice of underrepresented populations. She explains that her life experiences contribute to her motivation to participate in politics. “I understand what it’s like to raise a child.. I know what it’s like to apply for food stamps.” Debra encourages other women to seek out positions in politics, suggesting that the more viewpoints we have, the better. “There are a lot of women out there taking care of their elder parents, working a job or two. They would bring a different perspective.”

She both understands the struggles of women, and seeks to inspire them. She recalls a tweet she received after the Democratic National Convention, where she had worn a dress typical of customs.. A young girl had tweeted that she wanted a dress just like hers. If Debra’s public presence can inspire a young girl to get involved in her community, it makes the work worth it. “By inspiring people you can lead them to doing good for someone else.”

Debra is a big believer in the importance of participation in public office. During the 2008 election she volunteered by campaigning on reservations, encouraging native people to register to vote. When everyone participates politically, they are taking part in creating their future. “We’re stronger together,” she explains.

The importance of community voice is something that provides Debra with a sense of wellness on a personal level. Having been raised in Pueblo culture, she learned that “when you’re taking care of your community, your family, then everything is fine. As long as everyone’s okay, you’re okay too.”

Check Out The Links Mentioned in This Episode!

Debra Haaland on the Democratic Party of NM Website

Debra Haaland on

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014 Compassion as a Means for Change with LaDonna Harris

In business and life, we inevitably will meet someone with whom we butt heads. Whether it’s an issue of personality clash, differences in political opinion, or different viewpoints on an issue, not everyone is going to agree with your views. While you many never get someone to change their opinion, it’s important to remember that closed-minded beliefs are, at the core, a matter of lack of education. Someone is not attacking you because they are right, they simply do not know better. While this isn’t always the most comforting reality, it may be the best starting point to move forward. According to LaDonna Harris, President of Americans for Indian Opportunity, this can be the most productive place to begin a conversation, as your emotions are not tied up in the discussion and you can begin to educate, rather than fight.

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LaDonna Harris has been a central voice for Native American rights, civil rights, environmental protection, and the women’s movement. She founded some of today’s leading national Native American organizations including Oklahomans for Indian Opportunity, the National Indian Housing Council, Council of Energy Resource Tribes, National Tribal Environmental Council, and National Indian Business Association. LaDonna also worked to enact civil rights changes and was a founder of the National Women’s Political Caucus. Today I speak with LaDonna about finding her voice, discovering productive ways to work with adversaries, organizing groups for social change and overcoming stereotypes.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How you can deal with adversaries and create a relationship with them that benefits you both
  • Tips for finding your voice when it feels like no one wants to listen
  • How you can bring individuals together in the workplace or elsewhere to way to make real, significant change
  • How to voice your experience in a way that makes it relatable and can influence the opinion of those with differing views

More About LaDonna

LaDonna was raised by her Great-Grandparents in rural Oklahoma during the Great Depression. Growing up in Comanche culture, family, community, and connectedness were essential principles in LaDonna’s upbringing. This emphasis on connectedness has been a driving force in LaDonna’s organizing work, and has allowed her to keep a calm head when faced with prejudice and opposition.

LaDonna’s public service work began alongside her husband at the time, U.S. Senator Fred Harris. LaDonna is very skilled as reading people, and used this talent when she would join her husband in Congressional hearings. This allowed her to quickly discern some of the serious problems that were occurring in America at the time, such as inequities for women, people of color, and Native Americans.

Initially LaDonna struggled with voicing her opinions when she was met with these issues. She would find herself filled with frustration, and often tears, and fall silent. Overtime LaDonna learned that she could find success in initiating change if she focused on interconnectedness and sought to educate and organize rather than fight. She would act by joining communities together to fight for change, as well as working to integrate tribal governments and ways of life into the Federal system.

During this time LaDonna discovered one of her greatest strengths; organizing people around an issue. LaDonna views success as the ability to create something and then let it go; she emphasizes helping to bring people together around an issue that effects them, and then letting them take over. While this may sound incredibly generous, LaDonna chooses to see her work with others as selfish. She thrives on human interaction, so to her helping others is helping herself.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Working with other people.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Being able to organize people.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Follow the Comanche principle that everyone has value.


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Check Out the Links Mentioned in This Episode!

Americans for Indian Opportunity

Indian 101

Native American Indian Housing Counsel

National Indian Business Association

National Women’s Political Caucus