How many times have you stopped short of being you in order to fit in? Or you acted out of alignment with who you are (without even being aware you were doing it)? And how did it work out for you?
Today’s topic is bringing the whole you (including the feminine) to the workplace and leadership and hopefully by the end of the show you’ll be inspired to step into your power as a leader with all of your self in order to make a bigger impact in your work and the world. If you feel you’ve been holding back, or trying to fit it by acting in ways that are not aligned with your true self, this episode is for you. Not to mention the powerhouse guest I have on this week to talk about this and a whole lot more.
My guest today is Jennifer Palmieri. Palmieri is one of the most accomplished political and communications strategists in America today. Jennifer served as head of communications for Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign and White House communications director under President Barack Obama. She was also White House deputy press secretary for President Bill Clinton and national press secretary for the Democratic Party. She is currently President of the Center for American Progress Action Fund, has been a frequent contributor to the Washington Post and other national print outlets, and is a frequent guest commentator on MSNBC news shows.
In her new book, Dear Madam President, Jennifer Palmieri uses hard-earned experiences and lessons from her days in the Obama White House and Hillary Clinton’s presidential campaign – to name a few – to pen an empowering letter to the first woman president and, by extension, all women seeking positions of power. She aims to forge a new model of leadership that fully embraces their feminine qualities and demonstrates that women can best serve by being themselves.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
What Jennifer did the morning after the 2016 election
Which event planted the seeds for her book, Dear Madam President
Why she wanted to change the conversation about women and leadership
The issues she’s focused on now
How she felt she let the country down and what she did about it
What she figured out sitting on the tarmac in Florida just days before the election
When we’re on the cusp of a transformation, we are often very uncomfortable. We’re not content with our current lifestyle, but we don’t know exactly what to do to find that happiness. Our ideas about our identity and purpose are about to shift, and this can be a very scary prospect. The one thing worse than feeling stagnant is change: we want things to remain the same, because we don’t want to throw away all of our hard work. Who will we be without our achievements? According to Dr. Rosie Kuhn, when it’s time to make that change, “there’s a deconstruction process that you go through.” And the way to get through that deconstruction process is to shut off the external, and look within to find your true calling.
In this episode I speak with Dr. Rosie Kuhn, preeminent thought leader, coach and leadership facilitator. Dr. Rosie is a speaker, author, and facilitator. As a Transformational Life and Business Coach, she encourages her clients to think beyond their limited sense of reality. Her books, blogs, videos and podcasts engage and inspire her audience to question the source of their decision making. Dr. Rosie is considered to be a preeminent thought leader in the field of Transformation and Transformational Coaching. She is the author of many books, including Self-Empowerment 101, and newly published Cultivating Spirituality in Children. As the founder of The Paradigm Shifts Coaching Group, Dr. Rosie specializes in empowering individuals to fearlessly embrace transformation. She has worked in the field of transformation for over 20 years. In this episode, Dr. Rosie and I talk about how you can tell when it’s time to make a shift in your life, how to move away from fear-based decision making and lead with fierce love, and why it’s so important to embrace, rather than resist, transformation.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode
- How Dr. Rosie inspires her clients to embrace change
- Why, if you want to be a successful leader, you need to be willing to experience transformations
- How you can begin your process of transformation
More About Dr. Rosie
Before founding the Transformational Coaching Training at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, Dr. Rosie working for 30 years as a life coach, marriage and family therapist, spiritual guide. She began her career as a clinical therapist for addiction recovery programs, and founded the The Paradigm Shifts Coaching Group in 1999.
Dr. Rosie helps people to find the right questions to ask themselves to begin the process of transformation. “Most people are not asking the right questions,” she explains, adding that then the “source of the insecurity is never revealed and expressed.” Instead, people will often live in cycles of anxiety, knowing that the way they are leading their lives is no longer fulfilling, but not having the tools or direction to make whatever change may be needed.
The most difficult part about making a life change is the vulnerability that is required. As a coach, she says that it is her job to “not support you in avoiding that vulnerability.” Instead, she helps her clients to answer the question: “how do you move forward even though you feel vulnerable, even though its messy?”
This work is essential for anyone who seeks to lead others or wants to find success. “To be truly a leader in the world means you have to face the stuff that’s messy,” Dr. Rosie explains, “because you’re going to lead people through messiness.”
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For anyone trying to start a business or new project, there’s a juggling act to be had. We need to rearrange our schedules and lives to make sure we can put sufficient energy into this new endeavor. Generally, that means taking away some time or energy from other responsibilities, or, as Emily Bennett of Baby Blastoff! has found, asking for help.
Emily Bennett is the founder of owner of Baby Blastoff!, a children’s clothing line aimed to transcending gender stereotype messages found in most children’s clothing. Her clothing is USA-made, unisex, printed from Emily’s original artwork, and made from high quality fabric. Emily sources all materials from local, reputable businesses, and sustainably manufactures all products in Albuquerque, New Mexico, supporting her community economically. Emily has her masters in education, and prior to starting Baby Blastoff she taught kindergarten, first, and second grade for five years. In this episode, Emily and I talk about the challenges of being a solopreneur, how to create a schedule that allows you to nurture your business and your family or personal life, and why it is so important to encourage gender equality at a young age.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
- What Emily does to maintain motivation as a solopreneur
- How Emily is able to create a schedule that allows her to fill her roles both in her family and in her business
- How you can use your creative skills to sell your product, business, or self
More About Emily
Emily began her business around the time that her son was born. In looking for clothing for him, she was shocked to see that so many of the clothing items available had phrases that blatantly perpetuated gender stereotypes, such as ““lock up your daughters,” or “tough guy.” “I can’t believe the messages we put on babies without thinking very much about how that impacts their lives and how others treat them.” Emily knew that other parents shared her dissatisfaction, so she decided to make clothing of her own.
Baby Blastoff! began in 2014, and seeks to create baby’s clothing with gender neutral or stereotype destroying messages. All of the clothing is meant for both boys and girls, though she hopes that she is able to encourage people to reexamine the words they use when speaking to any child. For her son and other boys, she “wants boys to have the message that they can be gentle. that’s part of being a boy too.” Emily explains, “we would all benefit from a world that was more equal.”
Emily’s business began at the same time that she began motherhood, and she quickly found that there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to take care of everything she needed to. She felt herself growing frustrated and resentful, and finally decided there needed to be a change. She and her family worked out a new schedule so that she could dedicate more time to her business. Right away, “that feeling of resentment melted away” and Emily was able to “get what I needed and take care of myself.”
For anyone hoping to start out on a business project on their own, Emily recommends that each day you ask yourself, “what can I do to feel productive today?” and be sure to ask for what you need both from your support system, and from yourself.
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Today’s topic is How to Get Ahead in Your Career, on Corporate Boards and in Public Policy and hopefully by the end of the show you’ll be inspired to decide what you want, put your intentions out to the world, and take that calculated risk you’ve been considering,
My guest today is Catherine Allen. For more than 30 years, Catherine Allen has been a leader in business innovation, technology strategy, and financial services. Today, Catherine is Chairman and CEO of The Santa Fe Group, a strategic advisory services company based in Santa Fe, NM. The Santa Fe Group specializes in briefings to C-level executives and boards of directors at financial institutions and other critical infrastructure companies in the areas of cybersecurity, emerging technologies, and risk management.
What You’ll Learn in this Episode:
- the three areas to focus on supporting more women in leadership
- differences between millenial, generation x and boomers when it comes to women in business
- how many women on a board you need to make a difference
- what impacts economic performance in business
- how to get on a corporate board and what expertise you need
- what Catherine Allen worked with Julia Cameron on, author of The Artist’s Way
- where she gets a lot of her writing done
- how to compartmentalize in order to be in the moment in each part of your life
Women’s International Study Center
Equal Credit Act
The Santa Fe Group
Reboot Your Life
The Artist’s Way at Work
Warnings By Richard Clark
Design Your Life by Cornell Spears Lopez
When we think of community building, we often envision the end product, which likely includes the organizing and inclusion of people from all different walks of life around an issue or a sense of unification. What is missing from that vision is the most important part of community building; the process of getting there. According to community organizer and business incubator Pamela Slim, the are often good, logical reasons that communities tend to resist the change or openness necessary to bring a community together. From her perspective, the most important way of overcoming this resistance is not to sell yourself to the community, but sell the community to itself. Find the needs of the various community members, listen to why those needs are not being met, and provide the resources so that individuals can connect with one another, instead of taking over as authority.
Pamela Slim is an award-winning author, speaker and leader. She spent the first 10 years of her solo practice as a consultant to large corporations such as Hewlett-Packard, Charles Schwab and Cisco Systems, where she worked with thousands of employees, managers and executives. In 2005, she started the Escape from Cubicle Nation blog, which became one of the top career and business sites on the web. She has coached thousands of budding entrepreneurs, in businesses ranging from martial art studios to software start ups. Her latest book, Body of Work, was released with Penguin Portfolio in January 2014. In this episode, Pamela and I talk about why it is so important to have diversity in leadership positions, why pushing your ideas on a community is bound to fail, and how she puts authority in the hands of the community when it comes to community building.
WhatYou’ll Discover in This Episode
- How to focus on what a community needs rather than what you can offer and why this is important
- Pamela’s tips for applying successful community organizing tactics to a business
- Why it is so important to have diversity in leadership positions, and how you can encourage this to happen
More About Pamela
Pamela has been working in organizing all of her professional life. In her experiences as a consultant and a community organizer, one of the biggest takeaway she has learned is that you will find much more success if you address the needs of the community, rather than try to sell yourself to them. “If it’s just about you, its a hollow message,” she explains preferring to “teach leadership capacity for the people I work with.” She explains that if you try to be the leader of the community, the people that you serve will look to a mentor to have all the answers.” This then fails to achieve the goal of empowering the community, plus it will likely lead to failure once you, the leader, step away.
Instead, Pamela suggests that we look at community building from the perspective of the community members. “You always want to ask: who is here, who is not here, why aren’t they here, what can we do in order to make them feel more welcome.” She notes that a common mistake community builders make is to focus on demographics, rather than individual experiences. “instead of talking about diversity and inclusion,” she says, “talk about normalizing.” Understandably, community members won’t feel welcome if they are constantly reminded of their diversity. When we normalize who is actually here, people begin to feel more included, welcome, and valued.
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