Posts Tagged ‘confidence’

130 How to Communicate to Show Confidence in the Workplace with Andie Kramer

Have you ever said something in a meeting and someone else basically repeats your idea and gets credit for it?Or you keep being interrupted in meetings or discussions?

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It’s time to claim your space, well women. Stand your ground. Say your piece. We are socialized to politely defer to others, because what we are saying couldn’t be that important right? Wrong. Or we make a statement that sounds like a question…it’s so easy to give away our power and confidence. But you know what? It’s also easy to claim it.

Andrea Kramer is co-author of the book Breaking Through Bias: Communication Techniques for Women to Succeed at Work, She is also co-author of What You Need to Know About Negotiating Compensation, as well as over 150 articles and blog posts on promoting diversity and overcoming gender stereotypes and biases.

What you’ll learn in this episode:
1. tips on how to avoid being interrupted in meetings and discussions;
2. how to project power by claiming your seat at the table,
3. how to say “no” to projects that do not advance your career.

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064 How to Do WHAT You Love Instead of Doing to BE Loved with Mary Hyatt

Most of us would be proud to call ourselves go-getters. It feels good to say you get ahead and you achieve your goals. Yet, for some of us, despite achieving the goals we set out, we still feel a sense of emptiness or lacking. Life and business coach Mary Hyatt explains that this is an important feeling to listen to. This feeling can be an indicator that your drive is coming from a place of self-defeat. That voice that tells you that you are not good enough or lovable just on your own- you must prove it. While Mary doesn’t bash those who are driven, she does explain that it is important to be sure that your drive is coming from joy rather than a yearning to be accepted, and she works with women everyday to fix this.

Mary Hyatt is a life and business coach, a holistic lifestyle advocate, and a Blue Diamond wellness advocate with doTERRA essential oils. After falling into a deep depression in her twenties, Mary had an awakening and realized that to live her life fully, she had to take charge of it. Mary works with women to “create exactly what they desire” in their lives through life and business coaching. While Mary lives in Nashville, she works with women across the country and is in the process of creating an online course to help women to love their bodies, no matter what size they are.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode

  • How to recognize if your drive is coming from an unhealthy place, rather than a place of love
  • How to change your attitude to accept that you are lovable just as you are- you don’t need to do anything to prove it
  • How to move away from negative, self-defeating behavior and recognize the positive in your life
  • What it means to say our thoughts are connected to our emotions, and how you can use this knowledge to empower yourself

More About Mary

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In Mary’s twenties, she dropped out of college and fell into deep depression. She experiences anxiety regularly, felt completely uncomfortable in her own skin, and gained 80 lbs. She recalls walking into the bathroom one day, looking in the mirror, and no longer recognizing herself. “The exterior wasn’t matching who I am on the inside.” She realized she didn’t want to live her life like that any more. “I was so numbed out, I was dead to the world- sleepwalking.”

Mary explains that “becoming aware” was the first part of her transformation. She began to look at her behaviors and her ways of thinking to find the “route cause of all of the numbing.” In addition, she became a student. She bought book upon book about self discovery and self help, finally depending on herself to take control of her life and read the books.

Today, Mary focuses on sharing what she has discovered in her journey with others. She focuses on helping women to learn to love themselves so they aren’t living their lives trying to earn love from others. At the moment she is particularly interested in living in the moment and acknowledging the positive. “We often relate to others on suffering, pain, hardships,” she explains, “it’s rare that people respond [to ‘how are you doing’ with a positive response.” Her current goal is to challenge herself to see “how good can I stand it before I feel like I need to self sabotage?”

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MaryHyatt.com

Embrace film

Tony Robbins’ Unleash the Power Within

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046 How to Discover Your Worth with Lexi Palmer

Many of us can recall a time in our lives when we felt purposeless. Perhaps we lacked direction, or we weren’t sure what steps to take in our career. In these moments of uncertainty, the words of others can be very influential. Sometimes that’s a a great thing; when we receive encouragement and reminders of our strengths, though sometimes we receive advise that leads us down a negative path. For Lexi Palmer, the negative advise she received ended up being positive. Without having received advise to settle and not take risks, she woulnd’t have been able to discover her inner strength and worth and reach her goals through internal motivation.

In this episode, I speak with Lexi Palmer. Lexi is the CEO of Equisec, a research based company whose goal is to share research and help horse owners learn as much as possible about their horses, primarily through genetic tests and continuous scientific discoveries. An avid equestrian from birth, Lexi has most of her life immersed in various aspects of equestrian life. Lexi was a member of Palos Verdes Pony Club as well as a top competitor for the Palos Verdes High School Equestrian team, winning numerous championships for her school. In the show arena, she has earned many accolades including a top ten spot in the California Professional Horseman’s Association medal finals. Lexi is a graduate of The University of New Mexico and obtained a Bachelor’s Degree in Interpersonal Communications. She is also well known in the Albuquerque Public School district for her inspirational presentations on goal setting for avid students. In this episode, Lexi and I talk about the importance of included women in the tech industry, listening to your inner voice instead of criticism from others, and for only accepting what you are worth.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode

  • How you can find internal confidence and strength when no one else is showing you support
  • Ways to recognize who in your life does not have your best interest in mind
  • Tips for building the internal strength to leave a situation that doesn’t serve you and start out on your own

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More About Lexi

Following college, Lexi found a traditional 9-5 job. She reflects that “I was never the over achiever, not the smart kid.” Feeling uninspired and directionless, she followed the advice of others and “did the things society tells you to do when you’re twenty-two.” After a year of working a job she did not enjoy, she realized she could not continue down that path. “No one told me I could do anything amazing, so I never believed I could.” Lexi lacked encouragement from her peers, which left her with one source of motivation; herself.

Soon after leaving her job, Lexi accepted a position with Equisec. Having nothing to lose, she threw herself whole heartedly into her work. “I had no option but to keep moving forward.” She knew that she had greater potential than others told her, and she recognized that hard work and faith in her own abilities would be the way to get there. She recalls, “I had no idea what I was doing, but this is better than what I would be doing with a nine to five.”

After less than a year at Equisec, Lexi’s boss approached her and asked where she would like to see herself in in the company. “CEO,” she responded, and soon enough she was offered the position. Lexi explains that it is her sense of internal motivation and commitment to her values that has brought her to where she is. No matter what hardships she faces, she knows she’s “worth everything I decide to be worth” and has confidence in “what I am worth and know what I stand for.”

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Equiseq

Brainfluence by Roger Dooley

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041 How to Use What Comes Easy For You To Find Your Power with Val Romero

We tend to associate success with hard work. If we didn’t sweat for it, it doesn’t count. Unfortunately, that can sometimes result in us discrediting the successes we have that came easily. Perhaps we ought to change that attitude. If something comes easily to us, we ought to acknowledge that we have an intuitive ‘knack,’ and take advantage of it. For Women Make a Difference founder Val Romero, this struggle is very real. After working for years in finance and always viewing her people skills as just something that didn’t matter very much, she’s finally come to appreciate and benefit from those skills.

Today I speak with Val Romero, founder of Women Make a Difference. Women Make a Difference is a monthly luncheon meet-up developed to help women network and meet others in their community. Women Make a Difference has been hosting luncheons for over a decade and offers tech classes, a business directory, and services focused on increasing visibility and exposure for business owners. In 2015 Val was named a Woman of Influence Winner by Albuquerque Business First. Today I talk with Val about connecting with other women to get ahead, recognizing the strength in what comes easily to you, and learning how to network.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode

  • Tips for starting up a conversation and making connections, even when you’re feeling out of your comfort zone

  • Why it is so important to be engaged with your female community and use each other as resources and sources of strength

  • How you can recognize your innate skills, and use them to help yourself and skill share with others

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More About Val

Before starting Women Make a Difference, Val worked in finance in bookkeeping and office assistant positions. In these positions she excelled because of her social skills; she was always chatting with clients and making connections. She didn’t give much credit to her social skills, thinking of them as just being an insignificant part of the job. Often if there’s something easy for us, we don’t count is as a value,” she reflects. It was only after years of friends and coworkers complimenting her networking skills that she began to consider doing something with this ability.

With Women Make a Difference, Val is able to utilize her social skills to help her career, as well as to help and train other women to grow in theirs. The foundation of Women Make a Difference is an emphasis on the importance of women helping one another. Val models this principle by showing other women how they can be social, network, and make authentic connections. She also urges women to own their innate skills. “When people are acknowledging you for things you’ve done that were easy,” take credit for them, she encourages. The decision to take ownership of her innate skills is how she ended up where she is today with Women Make a Difference. Seek strength from one another, she suggests, because we are all stronger together.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Having a positive attitude.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

I’m easy to build rapport and trust with.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Set more boundaries and learn to say no.

Check Out the Links Mentioned in This Episode!

Women Make A Difference

Radical Beauty by Deepak Chopra

Selling With Intention by Ursula C. Mentjes

Crazy Rich Asians by Kevin Kwan

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016 Developing Self Confidence to Live Your Best Life with Nada Lena

When it comes to living a full life, confidence is integral. We may seem successful and happy in the eyes of others, but if we don’t feel confident then our achievements can feel meaningless. Lack of confidence leads to self-doubt and anxiety, and when we don’t have self-assurance we are ultimately holding ourselves back from our full potential. According to women’s life coach Nada Lena, when we take steps to overcome our self-doubt, we can unleash our full potential both professionally and personally.

Nada Lena is the founder of Rise Up For You, NLNproductions, and Senior Producer of non-profit Young Americans. Nada is also a performance coach, a podcaster, an educator, and a coach in leadership, confidence, and mindset. Today I speak with Nada about forgiveness as a tool, the power of choice, and overcoming self-doubt to realize your full potential.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How to keep your cool when you have a confrontation with someone else
  • How to forgive when you feel hurt and attacked, and forgiveness seems like the last thing you want to do
  • How you can allow yourself to grieve trauma in a healthy way without letting it take over your life, and still work toward growth and positivity
  • Everyday tips to help build confidence in life and work

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More About Nada

Nada’s career began in performance. In her early adulthood she toured the world as a singer and dancer with nonprofit The Young Americans, empowering and inspiring youth through music. By age twenty-six Nada had coached over 50,000 people worldwide on self worth and confidence. By age twenty-seven she was an executive director with her own house, luxury car, and a six-figure income.

Soon thereafter, Nada fell in love and married her partner. Having functioned as an independent, highly driven individual all of her life, up until then she had always put her own goals first. For the first time there was someone else to answer to, and Nada struggled to find balance. Slowly she began letting her own accomplishments fall to the side for the sake of the relationship. She quit her job, sold her house and car, and moved out of the country to be with her new husband. After three weeks the relationship fell apart.

Returning home empty handed, Nada was devastated. She had given up everything for the relationship, and now that was gone too. On the flight Nada had a realization. While all of her material goods were gone, she still had her confidence, and she had a choice. She could chose to let this event devastate her, or she could move forward with her life.

Today Nada uses her leadership skills to help women to discover the best versions of themselves to lead their fullest lives, professionally and personally. Nada uses her personal experience to inspire women and help them find confidence and end self-doubt. Nada has always been a ‘cheerleader,’ and she gets her greatest joys out of helping others discover their strengths. She also recognizes the healing ability of her work. By teaching others these skills, she is each day reminding herself to practice them as well.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

I allow myself to have space in the morning.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Unleashing the true potential in others.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Be patient, be kind, and be compassionate.

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Rise Up For You

N.L.N. Productions

The Young Americans

The Confident Speaker by Harrison Monarth and Larina Kase

Empowered Women Rise Conference 2016: November 6th

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