021 Maintain your Identity and Independence with Monica Bencomo

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Most of the images we associate with motherhood revolve around a woman’s dedication to her child. Cooking, maintaining the home, organizing children’s events. It’s as if we’re supposed to drop everything when motherhood comes along; we no longer should care about independence, fitness, self-time or feeling attractive.

According to Moms Wear Heels founder Monica Bencomo, this does not need to be the case. “We’re better moms when we take the time to care for ourselves.” When you remember your needs, your independence, and your unique sense of self beyond being ‘just a mom,’ you benefit yourself, your work, and your family because you are being the best ‘you’ you can be, and setting an example for your children.

Monica is a mom of two, founder of lifestyle brand and blog Moms Wear Heels, author of 7 Habits of a Healthy, Happy Mom, and co-owns Pasion Latin Fusion restaurant with her husband in Albuquerque. Today I talk with Monica about her physical and emotional transformation, becoming a mother and starting her business, developing a social media following and maintaining her independence while being a mother.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How you can maintain your identity, even with huge life changes such as having children or getting married
  • An example of Monica’s transformative 10 minute workouts- the same workouts that helped her lose 40lbs
  • How to develop the motivation to reach your health, diet, and lifestyle goals
  • How you can use vision boards to achieve your goals

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More About Monica

Health and fitness are an important part of Monica’s routine. With over 25K Instagram followers, her health and fitness brand has attracted a lot of attention. She provides followers with workouts, affirmations, and inspirational photos documenting her journey.

While Monica prides herself on balancing her fitness and health goals with her mommy duties, health and fitness were not always priorities for her. Following High School she hit a low point, eating at fast food joints regularly and not exercising, which resulted in a forty lb weight gain in a period of three months. In hindsight, Monica realizes that she was emotionally eating and attempting to silence herself with food. When she moved out of state to begin college, she initiated a transformation, learning to express her emotions and care for and love herself.

When Monica became pregnant, she felt a fear of becoming a “mom in loafers and baggy jeans.” She decided to make it a priority to maintain her independence and self-love, and she sought out a community to nurture this intention. Finding nothing that fit her need, she took a leap and developed that community herself and Moms Wear Heels was born. At Moms Wear Heels Monica isn’t suggesting that every woman should be dressing sexy, rather she encourages women to feel empowered in their identity and not forget about themselves as their roles change and expand.

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MomsWearHeels.com

Moms Wear Heels Instagram page

Pasion Latin Fusion Restaurant

Abundance Now by Lisa Nichols

A Course in Miracles

The 4 Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss

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020 Forgiveness as a Tool for Self Care with Carolyn Tadamala

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When people harm us, hurt us or sabotage us in some way, we often jump to anger and revenge. How can I get back at them? How can I gain back the power or status that they stole? According to entrepreneur Carolyn Tadamala, forgiveness is the answer. By forgiving them for their attacks, you allow yourself to take lessons form the incident and grow, rather than stagnantly dwelling on angry emotions and using your energy in petty, nonproductive ways. This tactic, Carolyn explains, is particularly useful when the failure was the result of your own actions. Imagine how much time and energy you would save if you simply forgave yourself for your mistakes, rather than wasting time suffering over them?

Today I chat with Carolyn Tadamala, India-based entrepreneur and founder of Éclair Patisserie, a bakery in Hyderabad. 90% of the profits of Éclair Patisserie go toward finding education for impoverished children and covering medical bills for children who are fighting cancer. Carolyn and I talk about incorporating family into your business, surrounding yourself with supportive people (and cutting out those that bring you down), burn out, and how to use forgiveness as a tool for self care.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How you can surround yourself with the people that support you and cut out those that bring you down
  • Tips for handling and avoiding burnout
  • How you can involve your family in your business and inspire them to support and love it
  • How to move on when you’re angry with yourself or a coworker

More About Carolyn

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Carolyn’s café, Éclair Patisarrie, is evidence of the growth she has had throughout her adulthood. She recalls a time earlier in her life when she was miserable to those around her, and as a result attracted miserable people. Carolyn made a decision to improve herself and to improve her surroundings, removing herself from people that hurt her or brought her down while at the same time working on herself to make sure she was treating herself and her loved ones kindly.

Improving the lives of those around her has become a central focus for Carolyn, in her work raising money for impoverished children, and in her personal life. While many of us struggle to care for the wellbeing of our family and the success of our business, Carolyn does the two together. From the very beginning she has included her family in the decisions around her business, finding that “Once they felt they were a part of it, it was easier for them to be accepting of the hard parts.”

Today I caught Carolyn at a pivotal moment; she was on the brink of burnout. She had been traveling, not getting enough sleep or exercise, and simply dealing with too much on her plate. In these moments Carolyn “jumps out.” She puts all of her responsibilities to the side and remembers her own self-care. She prioritizes rest, healthy diet, and exercise, and she asks herself a series of questions. “Who am I? What do I want to do? What do I need to get rid of to get to what I want? Who do I need to forgive?” By remembering the answers to these questions she is able to put herself back on track, and by offering forgiveness to herself and those around her she’s able to move forward and “jump back in.”

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Happiness.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Don’t worry. It’s all going to work out.

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Éclair Cafe

The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Shwartz

The Law of Attraction by Esther Hicks

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019 Curiosity Instead of Judgment: Overcoming Self-Sabotaging Behavior with Anna Sperlich

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Have you ever found yourself on the brink of success or just about the take a leap into a new career or life endeavor, and something happens to sabotage the whole thing? What’s more, have you ever found that the undoing was your own fault? This tendency to self-sabotage on the brink of big success is not so uncommon.

According to Anna Sperlich, there is an evolutionary reason for this trend. When humans lived in a more primal age and fatal danger could be lurking around every corner, it made the most sense to do whatever possible to maintain status quo. Logically, our chances of staying safe were higher if we could simply maintain whatever it was we were currently doing, rather than trying something new and different. Also, it would have been best for us to act like those around us. If we did anything too unusual we may risk being rejected by our families and communities, and the safety they provided.

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Today, this translates to us getting an innate tug of apprehension at the idea of trying something new: we could fail! We could be shamed! We could be kicked out of our communities! Luckily, the threats we face today don’t have the deadly outcomes that they once were. However we are still held back by this instinctive fear of change, which leads us to to self-sabotage. Today I go into depth with Anna Sperlich about why we self-sabotage, what we can do to change this behavior, and how we can use curiosity rather than fear and judgment to direct our lives onto a successful, stress-free track!

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • Why it is so important to surround yourself with supportive, motivational people, and how you can do this even if they aren’t physically around you
  • The first steps you can take to end your cycle of self sabotaging and find success and happiness
  • How you can end your judgment of yourself and the world around you to find greater self contentment
  • How you can end unhealthy habits in your life and forgive yourself for slip-ups

More About Anna

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Anna Sperlich is a registered addiction therapist, counselor, yoga instructor, eating disorder coach, empowerment coach, and inspirational speaker. She resides in Berlin, Germany where she lives with her partner and two young children.

Anna came to be in the field of coaching through her own experiences with disordered eating and anxiety. While has always been skilled at helping others to see their innate strengths, at times she has struggled to see her own worth. Through training and self-work, Anna now has a healthy, nonjudgmental way of viewing herself, the world, and the actions of those around her, which she shares with her clients as a tool to recovery.

While Anna often works with women with disordered eating, an overriding theme of her work is eradicating the compulsion to self-sabotage. “Our success is only limited by our self worth,” she explains. We must learn to love ourselves, and unlearn the detrimental self-criticism so many of us have been trained to do, if we want to achieve success and happiness. Anna suggests that to start we ought to “come from a place of curiosity rather than judgment” when looking at both our environment and ourselves.

One of the biggest tools Anna advocates for her clients is taking care of self. She explains that “we need to make sure that our own cups are full before we can pour out to others,” and she employs these words as a doctrine. Even if we have many roles to fill, we can’t meet any of them successfully unless we tend to our own needs first. Today Anna chooses not to focus on balance, but rather harmony, in her life.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Binge watching motivational videos on Youtube.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

I help people to find their greatness.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

You are good enough.

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www.AnnaSperlich.com

Thrive by Arianna Huffington

Get Rich, Lucky Bitch! by Denise Duffield Thomas

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018 Trusting Your Inner Voice with Julia Cameron

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Many of us yearn for a creative outlet, but we just don’t know where to start. Perhaps we’ve tried drawing classes or attempted to journal but it just won’t stick. Or we will have an idea for a creative project and won’t get around to doing it. You’re not alone. Even world-renowned artist and bestselling author Julia Cameron experiencing this distress, and today she shares some of her secrets to accessing creativity and coming into your authentic self!

Julia is author of bestsellers The Artist’s Way, Finding Water, The Vein of GoldWalking in this World and The Right to Write, which are taught in universities, churches, human potential centers and even in tiny clusters deep in the jungles of Panama. Julia also has extensive film and theater credits, which include such diverse work as Miami Vice and the prize-winning romantic comedy God’s Will, which she both wrote and directed. She is recognized as the founder of a new human potential movement that has enabled millions to realize their creative dreams. Today I speak with Julia about her creative process, listening to your inner voice, and achieving what you want through perseverance, discipline and authenticity.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode

  • Three actions you can take every day to start accessing your inner creative self
  • How to schedule creative time into your day, even with children
  • Tips to help you overcome a creative ‘hump’ and begin using creative thought, in your daily life, hobbies or business

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More About Julia

Julia’s passion for creative expression began at a young age. When she attended college at Georgetown University, she felt called to write poetry and sought to be an English Major. In the 1960’s a literary career was not a traditional path for women, and Julia was met with barriers and discouragement again and again. When she wasn’t allowed to study English at the College of Arts and Sciences she started a women’s lib chapter at Georgetown. This movement ultimately led to Julia, along with seven other women, to be the first female graduates from the College of Arts and Sciences in 1970.

This perseverance has been both a conscious and unconscious theme throughout Julia’s life and career. There have been many obstacles Julia has had to overcome throughout her career as a woman writer and artist, but she admits that the discipline is something innate within her; she can’t help it. She also can’t help from writing; she finds that she is irritable and on edge when she is not in the midst of a creative project.

I caught Julia at one of those ‘difficult places’ when she isn’t quite sure what the next project will be. While it is not a comfortable state, it is a crucial time in Julia’s creative process. When she has no projects on the forefront she dedicates herself to ‘prayer through writing.’ She writes to her muse seeking out help, in the form of her ritual morning journal writing, or morning pages, and listens to see what that response is. Julia finds that she is often resistant to whatever it is that comes up. She will allow herself procrastinate on acting, dwelling in anxiety for a few more days before doing what she knows she must and listening to her inner voice, an experience I think we can all relate to.

Julia’s most recent projects include a play and the completion of her newest book, It’s Never Too Late to Begin Again: Creativity at Midlife and Beyond, co-written with Emma Lively. This book introduces a fourth creative ritual into those described in previous books (morning pages, artist’s date, and weekly walk), that of memoir writing. While aimed at an audience in the retirement stage of life, the tools Julia describes can be used at any age.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Perseverance.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Start writing morning pages.

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Julia Cameron’s Website

A List of Julia’s Books

A List of Emma Lively’s Books

Julia Cameron’s New Book, It’s Never Too Late to Begin Again: Creativity at Midlife and Beyond

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017 Discover Your Worth with Kirsten Roberts

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We’ve all heard it before: we need to put our own needs first before we care for those around us. Easier said than done! For many of us, putting our own needs first seems implausible. There are children to be fed, a house to clean, work assignments to finish. All of these things need to be done and they all need to be done now. We know that our personal care has to fit in there somewhere, but where?

According to Kirsten Roberts, when you “sacrifice yourself, you’re never going to be the best person you can be for the ones you love.” Perhaps if we change our perception about our personal needs then we will begin to put ourselves first. Although this is a roundabout way of thinking about self-care, for some women this may be the best way to get them to actually begin prioritizing themselves.

As a former do-all-er, Kirsten understands that sometimes it’s a perspective shift that gets a woman to change her behavior and discover the joy she’s been missing. In today’s episode I speak with Kirsten Roberts, founder of Radical Life, a program that helps women “build their wildly fulfilling business, learn the art of crazy self-love and live with uproarious laughter every day.”  Kirsten was named one of Smart Company’s Top 50 Female Entrepreneurs in Australia, was CEO and co-owner of the franchised food group Spudbar and built a consulting arm for the accounting firm Crowe Horwarth where she signed $7m worth of contracts in the first two years of operation. Today I talk with Kirsten about self-love, finding laughter everyday, and breaking free from the anxiety cycle.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How you can begin to put your needs first without feeling guilty and do so in a way that benefits those around you
  • Some easy steps you can take to begin incorporating self-love into your daily routine
  • How to adjust your language so you’re learning to love yourself into healthy behavior rather than shame yourself out of unhealthy habits

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More About Kirsten

Kirsten comes from a history of business success. She’s always been the type to succeed in whatever she put her mind to, but after reaching her professional goals she found herself in a tough spot. She wasn’t happy, she was constantly comparing herself to others, and she didn’t know what to do next.

After a series of particularly difficult events, Kirsten sought help from a life coach. She would be the first to tell you that even those who seem to have everything together can benefit from some guidance and mentorship. She realized that she was living in a constant state of anxiety, “living life braced” for the next failure or meltdown and never simply appreciating day-to-day joys. Kirsten decided to adjust her perception of life, beginning with small steps such as daily affirmations, to bigger ones such as health and diet changes.

While Kirsten seeks to each day create “uproarious laughter” in her life, she also acknowledges the importance of accepting the dark periods in our lives. If you think of joy as a candle, “we can’t see the gorgeous flicker and the warmth of the candle unless there’s a dark contrast.” Rather than drown out our emotions with distractions; TV, alcohol, food; she recommends we welcome the dark times, take the lessons they give us, and move on when the time is right. After you are out of the darkness, it will be hard not to be teeming with wild fulfillment!

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Getting up early and meditating every morning.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

That I can inspire women.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

The journey creates who you are, so don’t beat yourself up on the journey.

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The Radical Life Project

Chapter One (the book) by Daniel Flynn

Louise Hay: Mirror Mirror on The Wall Exercise

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016 Developing Self Confidence to Live Your Best Life with Nada Lena

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When it comes to living a full life, confidence is integral. We may seem successful and happy in the eyes of others, but if we don’t feel confident then our achievements can feel meaningless. Lack of confidence leads to self-doubt and anxiety, and when we don’t have self-assurance we are ultimately holding ourselves back from our full potential. According to women’s life coach Nada Lena, when we take steps to overcome our self-doubt, we can unleash our full potential both professionally and personally.

Nada Lena is the founder of Rise Up For You, NLNproductions, and Senior Producer of non-profit Young Americans. Nada is also a performance coach, a podcaster, an educator, and a coach in leadership, confidence, and mindset. Today I speak with Nada about forgiveness as a tool, the power of choice, and overcoming self-doubt to realize your full potential.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How to keep your cool when you have a confrontation with someone else
  • How to forgive when you feel hurt and attacked, and forgiveness seems like the last thing you want to do
  • How you can allow yourself to grieve trauma in a healthy way without letting it take over your life, and still work toward growth and positivity
  • Everyday tips to help build confidence in life and work

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More About Nada

Nada’s career began in performance. In her early adulthood she toured the world as a singer and dancer with nonprofit The Young Americans, empowering and inspiring youth through music. By age twenty-six Nada had coached over 50,000 people worldwide on self worth and confidence. By age twenty-seven she was an executive director with her own house, luxury car, and a six-figure income.

Soon thereafter, Nada fell in love and married her partner. Having functioned as an independent, highly driven individual all of her life, up until then she had always put her own goals first. For the first time there was someone else to answer to, and Nada struggled to find balance. Slowly she began letting her own accomplishments fall to the side for the sake of the relationship. She quit her job, sold her house and car, and moved out of the country to be with her new husband. After three weeks the relationship fell apart.

Returning home empty handed, Nada was devastated. She had given up everything for the relationship, and now that was gone too. On the flight Nada had a realization. While all of her material goods were gone, she still had her confidence, and she had a choice. She could chose to let this event devastate her, or she could move forward with her life.

Today Nada uses her leadership skills to help women to discover the best versions of themselves to lead their fullest lives, professionally and personally. Nada uses her personal experience to inspire women and help them find confidence and end self-doubt. Nada has always been a ‘cheerleader,’ and she gets her greatest joys out of helping others discover their strengths. She also recognizes the healing ability of her work. By teaching others these skills, she is each day reminding herself to practice them as well.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

I allow myself to have space in the morning.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Unleashing the true potential in others.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Be patient, be kind, and be compassionate.

Check Out the Links Mentioned in This Episode:

Rise Up For You

N.L.N. Productions

The Young Americans

The Confident Speaker by Harrison Monarth and Larina Kase

Empowered Women Rise Conference 2016: November 6th

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015 Reclaiming Your Power with Robin Anderson

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Do you ever feel as though you surrender your own needs for the sake of others, and don’t get anything in return? Or perhaps you’ve experienced the frustration of putting your whole self into a project or idea, and the credit goes to someone else?

For many of us, there is a tension between realizing our dreams that we so deeply desire, and being the ‘good girl’ we’ve often been told to be; helpful, giving, and accommodating. According to women’s empowerment advocate Robin Anderson, when we put others before ourselves it is not merely frustrating; it is actually an act of surrendering our power. There are many ways in which people, especially women, have been programmed to do this everyday. Thankfully, Robin explains that there are very easy fixes to reclaim your power and, as she puts it, becoming who you were meant to be.

On the show I speak with Robin Anderson, women’s empowerment advocate, author, former teacher, and Certified Professional Life Coach. Robin worked for many years as a teacher before realizing her calling to help women realize their potential and inner strength. She has worked to counter gender discrimination at the University level and developed a mentoring program for women to gain skills in their selected career fields. Today I talk with Robin about putting her needs to the side for others, learning to own her ideas when others tried to claim them, and helping women to replace self-doubt with self-love and power.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

    • How you can reclaim your power to strengthen your sense of self and your success in relationships, business, and love
    • Ways you are unconsciously giving away your power, and what you can do to break those habits
    • How you can ensure that you get credit for the ideas that you produce
    • How you can make yourself a priority and still take care of those around you, and why it is so important to do so

 

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More About Robin

Robin’s professional career began in education. It was not her dream to become a teacher, but in her young adulthood a woman was expected to put her needs aside for the sake of her husband’s professional pursuits. Luckily, her husband was eventually offered a position at a University, which gave Robin access to jobs at the University. She soon left teaching to work in University administration, where she joined numerous educational boards, often as the only female board member.

As a board member Robin found that if she didn’t claim her ideas as her own, other board members would take credit. Rather than fall silent when this occurred, Robin spoke up and defended her positions. She saw the need to bring more female perspectives into these influential boards, and took this on as her role. She helped to develop a report that revealed gender inequalities in staffing, and began a mentoring program for women to gain access to skills in their chosen career fields.

Today Robin works with women to examine the ways in which they give up ‘power’ in subtle ways. Examples are when women say no when they really mean yes, or begin a sentence with an apology. From her personal and professional experience, Robin knows that many women have untapped potential, and she works to help them realize and own it.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

I monitor what I eat and I exercise.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

I’ve always been a champion for girls.

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Chrysalis (Robin’s website)

Robin Anderson’s Biography

Reclaim Your Power: Become Who You Were Meant to Be

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014 Compassion as a Means for Change with LaDonna Harris

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In business and life, we inevitably will meet someone with whom we butt heads. Whether it’s an issue of personality clash, differences in political opinion, or different viewpoints on an issue, not everyone is going to agree with your views. While you many never get someone to change their opinion, it’s important to remember that closed-minded beliefs are, at the core, a matter of lack of education. Someone is not attacking you because they are right, they simply do not know better. While this isn’t always the most comforting reality, it may be the best starting point to move forward. According to LaDonna Harris, President of Americans for Indian Opportunity, this can be the most productive place to begin a conversation, as your emotions are not tied up in the discussion and you can begin to educate, rather than fight.

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LaDonna Harris has been a central voice for Native American rights, civil rights, environmental protection, and the women’s movement. She founded some of today’s leading national Native American organizations including Oklahomans for Indian Opportunity, the National Indian Housing Council, Council of Energy Resource Tribes, National Tribal Environmental Council, and National Indian Business Association. LaDonna also worked to enact civil rights changes and was a founder of the National Women’s Political Caucus. Today I speak with LaDonna about finding her voice, discovering productive ways to work with adversaries, organizing groups for social change and overcoming stereotypes.

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What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How you can deal with adversaries and create a relationship with them that benefits you both
  • Tips for finding your voice when it feels like no one wants to listen
  • How you can bring individuals together in the workplace or elsewhere to way to make real, significant change
  • How to voice your experience in a way that makes it relatable and can influence the opinion of those with differing views

More About LaDonna

LaDonna was raised by her Great-Grandparents in rural Oklahoma during the Great Depression. Growing up in Comanche culture, family, community, and connectedness were essential principles in LaDonna’s upbringing. This emphasis on connectedness has been a driving force in LaDonna’s organizing work, and has allowed her to keep a calm head when faced with prejudice and opposition.

LaDonna’s public service work began alongside her husband at the time, U.S. Senator Fred Harris. LaDonna is very skilled as reading people, and used this talent when she would join her husband in Congressional hearings. This allowed her to quickly discern some of the serious problems that were occurring in America at the time, such as inequities for women, people of color, and Native Americans.

Initially LaDonna struggled with voicing her opinions when she was met with these issues. She would find herself filled with frustration, and often tears, and fall silent. Overtime LaDonna learned that she could find success in initiating change if she focused on interconnectedness and sought to educate and organize rather than fight. She would act by joining communities together to fight for change, as well as working to integrate tribal governments and ways of life into the Federal system.

During this time LaDonna discovered one of her greatest strengths; organizing people around an issue. LaDonna views success as the ability to create something and then let it go; she emphasizes helping to bring people together around an issue that effects them, and then letting them take over. While this may sound incredibly generous, LaDonna chooses to see her work with others as selfish. She thrives on human interaction, so to her helping others is helping herself.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Working with other people.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

Being able to organize people.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Follow the Comanche principle that everyone has value.

 

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Check Out the Links Mentioned in This Episode!

Americans for Indian Opportunity

Indian 101

Native American Indian Housing Counsel

National Indian Business Association

National Women’s Political Caucus

013 Create Your Power: An Interview with Shauna Kessler-Frost

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For those of us that have found success in our careers, there is a sense of accomplishment and relief that the work we have put in has paid off.

But some of us may feel conflicted in our career success and our altruistic goals.

It may seem as if you cannot have both a thriving business and a deeper purpose. According to nonprofit director Shauna Kessler-Frost, it’s a matter of taking initiative and creating that purpose for yourself.

 

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Shauna Kessler-Frost is the director of the Albuquerque branch of Meals on Wheels, a meal delivery service that offers daily hot meals to individuals that may otherwise go without food. Meals on Wheels of Albuquerque was named a 2014 Non-Profit of the year Honoree by Albuquerque Business First. Prior to becoming director, Shauna was a board member and volunteer while working for a car dealership. While working in the auto industry may not seem like an obvious predecessor to nonprofit management, Shauna was able to create a purpose in her car dealership work by integrating community service into the position. Today I talk with Shauna about finding purpose in your work (whatever that may be), listening to intuition, and adjusting your language to focus on the ‘why’ rather than the ‘what’ for greater profit.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • How you can ‘sell’ your business or idea in a way that listeners will support it personally and financially
  • How to find lessons when your job doesn’t fit into the mold of your ‘dream career’
  • Tips for getting your ideas out to a larger audience
  • Some indicators that it’s time for a career change, and how to go about it

 

 

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More About Shauna

Shauna’s professional career began in Japan, where she was placed as a marine working for the civilian component of the Marine Corps (NCOS). When she returned to the states, she began working in marketing for a car dealership in Albuquerque, NM. Shauna admits she had never anticipated working for a car dealership, but the opportunity presented itself and she didn’t say no. And, to her surprise, it was a wonderful job. One of the leading principles of the dealership was a commitment to community service. It was through this avenue that Shauna became involved with Meals on Wheels.

Shauna began volunteering with Meals on Wheels as a meal deliverer. She would bring the prepared meals to clients, giving her the opportunity to have face-to-face time with the community that the program served. Shauna knew right away that she would like to have greater involvement with the organization; she had marketing skills from which the nonprofit could benefit, and she found herself falling in love with the community it served. For the time being, however, it made sense for Shauna to continue working at the dealership and offer her skills on a volunteer basis.

Eventually Shauna was invited to join Meals on Wheels as a board member. When the director of the nonprofit was preparing to step down she encouraged Shauna to apply for the position. She applied and was offered the position. For Shauna, working with Meals on Wheels was a way to create purpose in her life, and she gladly accepted the offer. Today she emphasizes that she is grateful for the time she spent at the car dealership. It was Shauna’s initiative to seek out purpose in her work at the dealership that led to this opportunity.

Shauna was raised with the concept that we should do something good for someone everyday and serve a purpose beyond oneself. In a way, this has been a guiding principle in her career path. Instead of constantly second-guessing herself or comparing herself to others, even when she was in a job that didn’t seem very altruistic, Shauna followed her intuition and created purpose out of her work. From car dealership to nonprofit management, She was and is able to create purpose in the work that she does.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

Books on tape.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Stick with it. Don’t always second guess yourself.

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Meals On Wheels America

Meals on Wheels Albuquerque

012: Perfectionism As Distraction from Growth with Mary Kathryn Johnson

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Perfectionism As Distraction from Growth

Many of us pride ourselves in our ability to overcome the obstacles life throws our way and succeed in our given fields. We seek out new challenges and love to use our skills to overcome them. Sometimes, though, we can become a bit obsessive in our drive for success, and it becomes a drive for perfection. Our perfectionism then becomes a distraction from true personal growth. For Mommy Loves founder Mary Kathryn Johnson it took a serious reality check, breaking both of her legs while eight months pregnant and caring for a toddler, that lead to her realization that she needed to slow down.

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Mary Kathryn is founder and owner of Mommy Loves, the first ever online novelty maternity clothing line, parenting blogger, podcast host, and author of Say Bump and Take a Left: How I Birthed a Baby and a Business After a Huge Bump in the Road. Today I speak with Mary Kathryn about the accident that forced her to slow down, the trials of having to give up some independence, and how the experience gave her a new sense of self and the drive to start a thriving business. What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

  • Tips and tools for using your unique skill set to grow your business
  • How to use your parenting tools to further your business, and your business-running knowledge to strengthen your parenting skills
  • Using adaptability to see the positive and advantage in any situation

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Mary Kathryn has always been a type-A. Following graduation from UC Berkeley she got a job with Jenny Craig, and within three months was promoted to a manager position. That has been a common theme in her life: she seeks to do the best and be at the highest position she can achieve. However, when it came to having children, there was no formula to follow. Especially for Mary Kathryn, who at eight months pregnant had a serious fall that lead to two broken legs and three months of dependence on others. This was a very dark time for her, as she was used to being very independent.

Mary Kathryn recalls the day that she walked out of the hospitals, casts removed, as one of the best in her life. It was at that time that Mary Kathryn realized that perfectionism wasn’t her superpower; adaptability was, and still is. She had experienced a very dark time and came out feeling like if she could get through that, she could get through anything.

Becoming pregnant had proved to have its trials as well, which was another challenge for the perfectionist in Mary Kathryn. When her and her husband did become pregnant, she made a shirt as a celebration. She printed a report card onto a T-shirt that said ‘Pregnancy 101: A+.’ The shirt was a personal celebration for her, but she found that when she wore it she had a huge response from people that saw her. After Mary Kathryn’s recovery from her accident that t-shirt stuck in her mind. With her newfound confidence, she saw the T-shirt as a calling: this would be her business venture, Mommy Loves.

Thirteen years and a thriving business later, Mary Kathryn is still at it with Mommy Loves. She has also added additional projects to her plate, and now has a podcast and coaches parent entrepreneurs. She has developed a system to help parents start up their businesses using parenting as a guideline. Those skills necessary to care for a newborn are transferrable to the beginning months of starting a business, and the keys to caring for a toddler are transferable to a young business venture. Today Mary Kathryn remembers every day to slow down and use her adaptability to succeed.

Describe one personal habit that contributes to your well-being:

My morning routine.

What super power did you discover you had only to realize it was there all the time?

My adaptability.

What advice would you give to your 25 or 30 year old self?

Chill.

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Mommy Loves

Mary Kathryn Johnson’s Website

Say Bump and Take a Left: How I Birthed a Baby and a Business After a Huge Bump in the Road